pastor's wife, a personal/ministry resource
includes acctivities and recipe at the end..
Autumn at Our House: Skip Halloween for a Hallelujah Night
Karen Ehman with Kelly Hovermale & Trish Smith
Authors
source: Crosswalk
Every year, I get that old familiar feeling when the first crisp fall day arrives. It's a warm feeling of nostalgia for a simpler, beautiful time when I could smell the burning leaves, feel the wool of my brown and green Tartan plaid skirt itching my legs, and hear the radio faintly cranking out an early 1970s tune. I had the vibrant colors in my box of thirty-two perfectly pointed Crayolas, and my mind teetered between two very crucial topics: who would be my new teacher and what costume would my mom sew for me this year?
It's fall flashback time, and it always makes me wonder if today's children would remember the same happy feelings I had doing simple things like walking among the changing autumn foliage and enjoying natural pleasures like the taste of an apple freshly picked from the tree.
I know we can never replicate the memories we have. Many of today's children are homeschooled or celebrate Harvest Festival instead of Halloween. My family has made some of these same choices. And yet...
One year my fall flashback occurred as my three children and I were taking an afternoon stroll in our small Midwestern town. We rounded the corner to the library and were met by the most glorious maple tree that had already turned a bright, golden yellow. The very first tree to change color, it stood out from the others still sporting their summer green. "Mom, look!" Mitchell said. "Ooooohhhh!" baby Spencer cooed. "Can we take home some leaves?" asked Mackenzie.
Before answering, I paused for a moment remembering vividly my own autumn as a child. I then looked down at my own children, their pockets now stuffed full of leaves, and wondered just what kind of fall memories I'm making for them. "Sure," I said. "Grab a bunch. We'll hang them in the front window."
Back home, with the baby down for a nap, we got out the wax paper and iron and set to work filling our front window with beautiful pressed maple leaves. As we hung each one, I realized there's plenty I can do to help my children see the beauty in God's creation as the seasons change. There are orchards full of fruit waiting to be picked by chubby little hands, hot dogs waiting to be roasted by children with hungry tummies, and precious teens waiting to open up and talk to you as you take an evening stroll.
As that fall turned to winter, I reluctantly took down the golden leaves we'd pressed. I'm determined not to let the memory of that day fade. I've saved our pressed golden leaves.
The next autumn I hung them once again in our picture window just as the mail arrived via our mailman, Mr. Brown. "How beautiful!" he exclaimed. "Takes me back to the time the wife and I pressed leaves with out own kids years ago! Oh, how they loved that!"
I'm not the only dreamer.
Skip Halloween for a Hallelujah Night
For an alternative to Halloween, hold a church-wide Hallelujah Night. Children can come dressed as their favorite Bible character or Christian missionary of old. Or they can get creative when it comes to playing out the Bible theme.
We've seen entire families each with a different fruit costume and - viola! - the fruit of the Spirit! One youngster tied up his Beanie Babies on a rope and let them trail behind him two by two. He was - you guessed it - Noah! The most clever getup: a woman dressed in red flannel pajamas, red socks, and a red stocking cap. On the front, in black, she sported a big letter C. What was she? The Red Sea, of course!
You may wish to have carnival-style games and prizes, a cake or cookie walk, and of course donuts and Hot Spiced Cider (see recipe below) for refreshments. Other ideas:
• Hold a pumpkin carving contest. But for a twist, the carving must be based on something from the Bible. How about a candle, based on Psalm 27:1, "The Lord is my light and my salvation - whom shall I fear?" Or what about a cross to symbolize the cross on which Jesus Christ died for us?
• Host a "Trunk or Treat" time. In the parking lot of your church, have folks park in a circle with trunks to the inside of the circle. Open your trunks and place your Hallelujah Night candy inside. Have kids travel around the circle saying, "Trunk or Treat!" What a safe, memorable evening you'll have!
Hot Spiced Cider
10 cinnamon sticks, broken up
1 teaspoon whole cloves
2 tablespoons whole allspice
2 quarts apple cider
1 quart water
1 orange, sliced
Mix the first three ingredients in a small bowl. Cut three 7-inch squares of cheesecloth and layer them. Place the spice mixture on top. Gather the four corners and tie with string. Place the spice packet in a large saucepan or slow cooker. Add liquid and orange slices and heat until warm, but do not boil. Serve warm.
Saturday, October 28, 2006
Saturday, October 21, 2006
JESUS - SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT
source: Esther Sunita
thank you helpmeet!
Jesus had no servants, yet they called Him Master.
Had no degree, yet they called Him Teacher.
Had no medicines, yet they called Him Healer.
Had no army, yet kings feared Him.
He won no military battles, yet He conquered the world.
He committed no crime, yet they crucified Him.
He was buried in a tomb, yet He lives today.
Feel honored to serve such a Leader who loves us.
thank you helpmeet!
Jesus had no servants, yet they called Him Master.
Had no degree, yet they called Him Teacher.
Had no medicines, yet they called Him Healer.
Had no army, yet kings feared Him.
He won no military battles, yet He conquered the world.
He committed no crime, yet they crucified Him.
He was buried in a tomb, yet He lives today.
Feel honored to serve such a Leader who loves us.
Spiritual warfare in ministry
by Rick Warren
source: pastors.com
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If you don't take the Christian life seriously, if you don't take
ministry seriously, the Devil's going to. You may not mean business,
but he does.
Rick Warren
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If you were to come to my office, you'd find five full-length filing
cabinets, lined up one after another. Each of them is full of files:
Bible studies, ideas, sermons, messages, research, and such. One of
the most important files I have is a yellow one labeled, "Warnings –
Lessons to be Learned." The file is full of fallen Christian leaders.
Some of them I knew personally; some of them I didn't know. But I
review the file at the end of every year, just to warn myself.
We are in a spiritual battle. That's why that kind of stuff happens.
If you don't take the Christian life seriously, if you don't take
ministry seriously, the Devil's going to. You may not mean business,
but he does.
The most often used analogy for Christians in the Bible is of
soldiers. The words that are often used to describe the Christian life
are war terms – fight, conquer, strive, battle, overcome, victory. We
are living in enemy territory when we live in the world. Scripture
makes it very clear.
If you are in ministry, you are going to face opposition from the
Devil. If you get up in the morning and you don't face the Devil head
on, right at the start of the day, it means you're going in the same
direction. He is opposed to everything you stand for. He hates anybody
who's sold out to Jesus Christ. He will do anything he can to defeat
you.
So how do we fight this spiritual battle? Here are six essential steps.
1. Acknowledge the adversary. Realize Satan is real. Peter tells us,
"Be alert, be on watch. Your enemy the Devil roams around like a
roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Be firm in your faith and
resist him because you know that your fellow believers in all the
world are going through the same kind of suffering." (1 Peter 5:8-9)
Whenever you're being spiritually attacked, just remember: Welcome to
the club. It's proof that you're a believer. It's proof that you're
making an impact. The more of an impact you're making, the more the
Devil is going to fight you. You never outgrow it. It just gets more
intense.
2. Accept Jesus' authority. Jesus said, "I tell you the truth,
whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven and whatever you
loose on earth will be loosed in heaven." (Matt. 16:19) The Bible says
if you are a believer, you are given the authority of Christ in
spiritual warfare. You have the right to fight back. You have the
right to bind and to loose.
3. I put on the armor. The famous passage on armor is Ephesians
6:11-17: "Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand
against the Devil's schemes. Have the belt of truth buckled around
your waste and the breastplate of righteousness and have your feet
fitted with the Gospel of peace. Take up the shield of faith and the
helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit which is the Word of
God." You'll notice six pieces of armor in the passage.
Truth
Righteousness
Gospel of peace
Faith
Salvation
The Word of God
Every piece of this armor is mental preparation for battle. That's
what the armor is all about. You need to put on truth, righteousness,
peace, faith, salvation, and the Word of God mentally before you do
ministry – whether you're preaching, leading a Bible study, leading
worship, or counseling a grieving member of your community. Why? You
expect that you are going to be attacked, so you need your armor on
first.
4. Aim the artillery. Spiritual warfare takes place primarily in our
thought life. When somebody is opposing you in your ministry, they're
not the real problem. The problem is the thoughts the Devil's giving
them to oppose you. The problem is not that person. The problem is
what they're acting on. You always act on what you think. They're
getting thoughts from the wrong source. There are only two sources for
thoughts. When we get thoughts from God, we call it inspiration. When
we get thoughts from the Devil, we call it temptation.
We have four weapons in these battles against evil thoughts.
1. The Truth. The truth, God's Word, is our sword. It cuts through all
the mustard. It gets right to the point. When you are in a conflict,
the question you want to ask yourself is this: What does God say about
this?
2. Humility. The more you humble yourself before God, the more power
you will have in your life (James 4: 6-7). That's just the way it
works. As we minister to others, we need to continually acknowledge
God's hand in what we are doing. He's the one who empowers our
ministry. We're simply his vessel. In humility, we find real and
lasting power in ministry.
3. Faith. Without even talking to you in detail, I can tell you
exactly what God is doing in your ministry. He's doing what you expect
him to do. Faith is a powerful, powerful tool. (1 John 5:4) I don't
know why, but when I preach and I expect people to respond, they do.
4. Praise. Revelation 12:11-12 says, "They overcame him [Satan] by the
blood of the lamb and by the word of their testimony. Therefore
rejoice, you heavens, and you who inhabit them." How did they overcome
the Devil? By the blood of the lamb and the word of their testimony.
They were praising God. The Bible says when people praise God, "[he]
inhabits the praises of his people." Sometimes after a particular
worship service, I honestly feel like Mickey Mouse could preach and
people would come to know Christ. The praise has cleansed the air.
There's power in the praise of God.
5. Call on the Holy Spirit. You need to say, "God, fill me with your
Spirit as I'm about to do this." Whether you're preparing a message,
preaching, counseling someone, training your leaders – whatever you're
doing – ask God to fill you with his Spirit.
6. Avoid all distractions. If you're going to be effective in ministry
– in battle – you've got to focus yourself. You know what's important
in life. There are so many things that want a piece of your time. The
good can be the enemy of the best.
I have one person to please and only one – the Lord Jesus Christ. And
if I'm pleasing him, that's what is going to count at the end of my
life. Avoid the distractions. If you get distracted, the enemy is
going to catch up with you.
So what's distracting you from ministry?
This article was adapted from Rick Warren's leadership development
message, Ministry is Warfare.
source: pastors.com
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
If you don't take the Christian life seriously, if you don't take
ministry seriously, the Devil's going to. You may not mean business,
but he does.
Rick Warren
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
If you were to come to my office, you'd find five full-length filing
cabinets, lined up one after another. Each of them is full of files:
Bible studies, ideas, sermons, messages, research, and such. One of
the most important files I have is a yellow one labeled, "Warnings –
Lessons to be Learned." The file is full of fallen Christian leaders.
Some of them I knew personally; some of them I didn't know. But I
review the file at the end of every year, just to warn myself.
We are in a spiritual battle. That's why that kind of stuff happens.
If you don't take the Christian life seriously, if you don't take
ministry seriously, the Devil's going to. You may not mean business,
but he does.
The most often used analogy for Christians in the Bible is of
soldiers. The words that are often used to describe the Christian life
are war terms – fight, conquer, strive, battle, overcome, victory. We
are living in enemy territory when we live in the world. Scripture
makes it very clear.
If you are in ministry, you are going to face opposition from the
Devil. If you get up in the morning and you don't face the Devil head
on, right at the start of the day, it means you're going in the same
direction. He is opposed to everything you stand for. He hates anybody
who's sold out to Jesus Christ. He will do anything he can to defeat
you.
So how do we fight this spiritual battle? Here are six essential steps.
1. Acknowledge the adversary. Realize Satan is real. Peter tells us,
"Be alert, be on watch. Your enemy the Devil roams around like a
roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Be firm in your faith and
resist him because you know that your fellow believers in all the
world are going through the same kind of suffering." (1 Peter 5:8-9)
Whenever you're being spiritually attacked, just remember: Welcome to
the club. It's proof that you're a believer. It's proof that you're
making an impact. The more of an impact you're making, the more the
Devil is going to fight you. You never outgrow it. It just gets more
intense.
2. Accept Jesus' authority. Jesus said, "I tell you the truth,
whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven and whatever you
loose on earth will be loosed in heaven." (Matt. 16:19) The Bible says
if you are a believer, you are given the authority of Christ in
spiritual warfare. You have the right to fight back. You have the
right to bind and to loose.
3. I put on the armor. The famous passage on armor is Ephesians
6:11-17: "Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand
against the Devil's schemes. Have the belt of truth buckled around
your waste and the breastplate of righteousness and have your feet
fitted with the Gospel of peace. Take up the shield of faith and the
helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit which is the Word of
God." You'll notice six pieces of armor in the passage.
Truth
Righteousness
Gospel of peace
Faith
Salvation
The Word of God
Every piece of this armor is mental preparation for battle. That's
what the armor is all about. You need to put on truth, righteousness,
peace, faith, salvation, and the Word of God mentally before you do
ministry – whether you're preaching, leading a Bible study, leading
worship, or counseling a grieving member of your community. Why? You
expect that you are going to be attacked, so you need your armor on
first.
4. Aim the artillery. Spiritual warfare takes place primarily in our
thought life. When somebody is opposing you in your ministry, they're
not the real problem. The problem is the thoughts the Devil's giving
them to oppose you. The problem is not that person. The problem is
what they're acting on. You always act on what you think. They're
getting thoughts from the wrong source. There are only two sources for
thoughts. When we get thoughts from God, we call it inspiration. When
we get thoughts from the Devil, we call it temptation.
We have four weapons in these battles against evil thoughts.
1. The Truth. The truth, God's Word, is our sword. It cuts through all
the mustard. It gets right to the point. When you are in a conflict,
the question you want to ask yourself is this: What does God say about
this?
2. Humility. The more you humble yourself before God, the more power
you will have in your life (James 4: 6-7). That's just the way it
works. As we minister to others, we need to continually acknowledge
God's hand in what we are doing. He's the one who empowers our
ministry. We're simply his vessel. In humility, we find real and
lasting power in ministry.
3. Faith. Without even talking to you in detail, I can tell you
exactly what God is doing in your ministry. He's doing what you expect
him to do. Faith is a powerful, powerful tool. (1 John 5:4) I don't
know why, but when I preach and I expect people to respond, they do.
4. Praise. Revelation 12:11-12 says, "They overcame him [Satan] by the
blood of the lamb and by the word of their testimony. Therefore
rejoice, you heavens, and you who inhabit them." How did they overcome
the Devil? By the blood of the lamb and the word of their testimony.
They were praising God. The Bible says when people praise God, "[he]
inhabits the praises of his people." Sometimes after a particular
worship service, I honestly feel like Mickey Mouse could preach and
people would come to know Christ. The praise has cleansed the air.
There's power in the praise of God.
5. Call on the Holy Spirit. You need to say, "God, fill me with your
Spirit as I'm about to do this." Whether you're preparing a message,
preaching, counseling someone, training your leaders – whatever you're
doing – ask God to fill you with his Spirit.
6. Avoid all distractions. If you're going to be effective in ministry
– in battle – you've got to focus yourself. You know what's important
in life. There are so many things that want a piece of your time. The
good can be the enemy of the best.
I have one person to please and only one – the Lord Jesus Christ. And
if I'm pleasing him, that's what is going to count at the end of my
life. Avoid the distractions. If you get distracted, the enemy is
going to catch up with you.
So what's distracting you from ministry?
This article was adapted from Rick Warren's leadership development
message, Ministry is Warfare.
A SABBATH
source: Quiet Moments With God
Be glad and rejoice for ever in that which I create
Isai 65:18 RSV
What is it that gives you that warm fuzzy feeling inside?
Certain smells, like the aroma of homemade bread right out of the
oven or hot apple cider, make you feel everything will be all right.
Certain sounds- a crackling fire in the fireplace that chases away
the damp chill in the fireplace that chases away the damp chill on a
rainy night; the whistling of a teakettle,ready to brew a pot of
your favorite tea; the beauty of Beethoven's "Moonlight Sonata"- all
make you feeel that life is good.
To Oscar HAmmersein, that warm, fuzzy, everything-is-going-to-be-
okay feeling came from "whiskers on kittens and warm, woolen
mittens. "What are some of your favorite things? When was the lst
time you gave yourself permission to be "nonproductive" and enjoy
some of life's simple pleasures- like the beauty of a sunset?
Logan Pearsall Smith wrote, "If you are losing your leisure, look
out! You may be losing your soul. When we don't take time for
leisure or relaxation, when we give our discretionary time away to
busyness and relentless activity, we are living in a way that
says, "everything depends upon me and my efforts"
Consequently, God prescribed a day of rest, the Sabbath, to enjoy
His creation adn to give us time tp reflect and remember all He has
done for us and all He is. The Sabbath is time to remember God is
God- and we're not!
The Sabbath doesn't have to be Sunday. You can take a Sabbath rest
anytime you relax and turn your focus to God and His creation.
Sometimes you have nothing better to do than relax. You may have
something else to do, but you don't have anything better to do.
Relax and just enjoy God's creation. After all, He created it for
you to enjoy.
Jesus knows we must come apart and rest awhile, or else we may just
plain come apart. VANCE HAVNER
Be glad and rejoice for ever in that which I create
Isai 65:18 RSV
What is it that gives you that warm fuzzy feeling inside?
Certain smells, like the aroma of homemade bread right out of the
oven or hot apple cider, make you feel everything will be all right.
Certain sounds- a crackling fire in the fireplace that chases away
the damp chill in the fireplace that chases away the damp chill on a
rainy night; the whistling of a teakettle,ready to brew a pot of
your favorite tea; the beauty of Beethoven's "Moonlight Sonata"- all
make you feeel that life is good.
To Oscar HAmmersein, that warm, fuzzy, everything-is-going-to-be-
okay feeling came from "whiskers on kittens and warm, woolen
mittens. "What are some of your favorite things? When was the lst
time you gave yourself permission to be "nonproductive" and enjoy
some of life's simple pleasures- like the beauty of a sunset?
Logan Pearsall Smith wrote, "If you are losing your leisure, look
out! You may be losing your soul. When we don't take time for
leisure or relaxation, when we give our discretionary time away to
busyness and relentless activity, we are living in a way that
says, "everything depends upon me and my efforts"
Consequently, God prescribed a day of rest, the Sabbath, to enjoy
His creation adn to give us time tp reflect and remember all He has
done for us and all He is. The Sabbath is time to remember God is
God- and we're not!
The Sabbath doesn't have to be Sunday. You can take a Sabbath rest
anytime you relax and turn your focus to God and His creation.
Sometimes you have nothing better to do than relax. You may have
something else to do, but you don't have anything better to do.
Relax and just enjoy God's creation. After all, He created it for
you to enjoy.
Jesus knows we must come apart and rest awhile, or else we may just
plain come apart. VANCE HAVNER
Defending Against Temptation
James 4:7-8
source: Elizabeth Beck
thank you helpmeet!
Temptation never completely goes away. The intensity and form of what tempts us may change with time and spiritual maturity. But as long as we’re in these earthly bodies, we will never be entirely free of it. That’s why we must learn to build a defense against its pull.
The first step to defeating temptation is trusting that the Lord is in control. Believe that He will limit temptation to what you can handle through His strength. Before a tempting thought even enters our head, be determined to resist with the help of the Holy Spirit.
Second, we need to be proactive. We need to identify weaknesses—those areas of our life where we are easily persuaded to sin. Likewise, it is helpful to recognize the conditions under which we are more prone to give in. Satan prefers to attack when believers are hungry, angry, lonely, or tired (H.A.L.T.).When facing temptation, we usually have little time to decide on our response. Once we are already feeling stress, the path between fantasizing and doing is particularly short.
The third step is training our mind to focus on the big picture rather than the immediate pleasure.
The following four questions can help us make wise choices:
Is this a violation of God’s Word?
What are the consequences?
Am I prepared to pay that price?
Is there a right way to meet this desire?
We can’t be totally free from temptation, but we can defend against it. Begin now. Make yourself mentally and emotionally ready for the next time you’re tempted. Preparation helps build a barrier of protection around your mind and heart.
source: Elizabeth Beck
thank you helpmeet!
Temptation never completely goes away. The intensity and form of what tempts us may change with time and spiritual maturity. But as long as we’re in these earthly bodies, we will never be entirely free of it. That’s why we must learn to build a defense against its pull.
The first step to defeating temptation is trusting that the Lord is in control. Believe that He will limit temptation to what you can handle through His strength. Before a tempting thought even enters our head, be determined to resist with the help of the Holy Spirit.
Second, we need to be proactive. We need to identify weaknesses—those areas of our life where we are easily persuaded to sin. Likewise, it is helpful to recognize the conditions under which we are more prone to give in. Satan prefers to attack when believers are hungry, angry, lonely, or tired (H.A.L.T.).When facing temptation, we usually have little time to decide on our response. Once we are already feeling stress, the path between fantasizing and doing is particularly short.
The third step is training our mind to focus on the big picture rather than the immediate pleasure.
The following four questions can help us make wise choices:
Is this a violation of God’s Word?
What are the consequences?
Am I prepared to pay that price?
Is there a right way to meet this desire?
We can’t be totally free from temptation, but we can defend against it. Begin now. Make yourself mentally and emotionally ready for the next time you’re tempted. Preparation helps build a barrier of protection around your mind and heart.
Unclean Lips
author: Luann Prater, Proverbs 31 Speaker Team Member
source: CrossWalk
Key Verse:
Isaiah 6:5, "For I am a man (woman) of unclean lips, and I live among
a people of unclean lips, and my eyes have seen the King, the Lord
Almighty." (NIV)
Devotion:
An entire case of hot sauce had been sitting in my closet since I
returned from the trade show. Working in marketing as I do, means
coming up with clever
themes and tie-ins for clients. This time I'd been showcasing "The
Hottest Hoist in the Industry"….I never said my job was glamorous. One
of our giveaways
was bottles of hot sauce with the label echoing the theme. Now 12
left-over bottles were waiting for me to get creative and find recipes
that would sizzle.
Is it just me or have you ever had one of those days that just
blind-sides you? We had just come from an amazing service at church.
Our prayer circle had
been so in tune with God it was if we touched the hem of Jesus'
garment. To top it off, the ride home was dotted with white clouds on
a brilliant blue sky.
Somewhere along the way we allowed Satan to hitch a ride with us. Our
conversation began to turn negative and before we knew it we were
spiraling out
of control. We both said things to each other that came from that ugly
unclean place that lurks in the shadows of our sin-nature. . We have
a name for this
behavior: "going in the ditch." That is when one of us starts veering
the conversation toward the edge and the other just plows on into the
ditch.
Our minds, hearts, and tongues were just not nice to one another. We
weren't alone. Isaiah, a giant in the Lord's army, also struggled with
this malady.
When God wanted to use him in a big way, Isaiah realized he was
absolutely not worthy because of his unclean lips. So the Lord sent
seraphs to touch his
mouth with a live coal from the altar and said, "See, this has touched
your lips; your guilt is atoned for." Ouch! Radical stuff!
Sometimes that is just what
we need to realize our guilt and then understand that Jesus paid the
price for our sin.
I pulled the hot sauce out of the closet and thought, "Ok, I've found
a use for you!" Every time my mouth or tongue gets the best of me I
put a drop on the
end of my tongue as a symbol of the live coal from the altar. Ouch!
Radical! It is a red hot reminder to get control of my unclean lips
and remember the
sacrifice that was made for me.
My Prayer for Today:
Jesus, take control of my unclean mouth today. Let the words of my
mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing and acceptable in
Your sight. In
Jesus' Name, Amen.
Application Steps:
Consider re-labeling a bottle of hot sauce to say: A Live Coal from
the Altar. Then, every time your mouth goes "into the ditch," touch
the tip of your tongue
with a drop from the bottle.
Forgive immediately instead of taking the conversation into the ditch.
Reflection Points:
Why do I feel the need to get my point across?
How can I get control of my tongue?
When will I stop allowing Satan to use my lips to injure others?
Power Verses:
2 Corinthians 10:5, "…we take captive every thought to make it
obedient to Christ." (NIV)
Psalm 19:14, "May the word of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." (NIV)
1Timothy 4:12, ". . . set an example for the believers in speech, in
life, in love, in faith and purity." (NIV)
source: CrossWalk
Key Verse:
Isaiah 6:5, "For I am a man (woman) of unclean lips, and I live among
a people of unclean lips, and my eyes have seen the King, the Lord
Almighty." (NIV)
Devotion:
An entire case of hot sauce had been sitting in my closet since I
returned from the trade show. Working in marketing as I do, means
coming up with clever
themes and tie-ins for clients. This time I'd been showcasing "The
Hottest Hoist in the Industry"….I never said my job was glamorous. One
of our giveaways
was bottles of hot sauce with the label echoing the theme. Now 12
left-over bottles were waiting for me to get creative and find recipes
that would sizzle.
Is it just me or have you ever had one of those days that just
blind-sides you? We had just come from an amazing service at church.
Our prayer circle had
been so in tune with God it was if we touched the hem of Jesus'
garment. To top it off, the ride home was dotted with white clouds on
a brilliant blue sky.
Somewhere along the way we allowed Satan to hitch a ride with us. Our
conversation began to turn negative and before we knew it we were
spiraling out
of control. We both said things to each other that came from that ugly
unclean place that lurks in the shadows of our sin-nature. . We have
a name for this
behavior: "going in the ditch." That is when one of us starts veering
the conversation toward the edge and the other just plows on into the
ditch.
Our minds, hearts, and tongues were just not nice to one another. We
weren't alone. Isaiah, a giant in the Lord's army, also struggled with
this malady.
When God wanted to use him in a big way, Isaiah realized he was
absolutely not worthy because of his unclean lips. So the Lord sent
seraphs to touch his
mouth with a live coal from the altar and said, "See, this has touched
your lips; your guilt is atoned for." Ouch! Radical stuff!
Sometimes that is just what
we need to realize our guilt and then understand that Jesus paid the
price for our sin.
I pulled the hot sauce out of the closet and thought, "Ok, I've found
a use for you!" Every time my mouth or tongue gets the best of me I
put a drop on the
end of my tongue as a symbol of the live coal from the altar. Ouch!
Radical! It is a red hot reminder to get control of my unclean lips
and remember the
sacrifice that was made for me.
My Prayer for Today:
Jesus, take control of my unclean mouth today. Let the words of my
mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing and acceptable in
Your sight. In
Jesus' Name, Amen.
Application Steps:
Consider re-labeling a bottle of hot sauce to say: A Live Coal from
the Altar. Then, every time your mouth goes "into the ditch," touch
the tip of your tongue
with a drop from the bottle.
Forgive immediately instead of taking the conversation into the ditch.
Reflection Points:
Why do I feel the need to get my point across?
How can I get control of my tongue?
When will I stop allowing Satan to use my lips to injure others?
Power Verses:
2 Corinthians 10:5, "…we take captive every thought to make it
obedient to Christ." (NIV)
Psalm 19:14, "May the word of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." (NIV)
1Timothy 4:12, ". . . set an example for the believers in speech, in
life, in love, in faith and purity." (NIV)
Don't ever give up
by Rick Warren
source:minstry toolbox
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Any time there is a delay, you can be sure that two things are going
on – your faith is being tested by God and contested by Satan.
Rick Warren
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Jesus told them a story showing that it was necessary for them to pray
consistently and never quit. He said, "There was once a judge in some
city who never gave God a thought and cared nothing for people. A
widow in that city kept after him: 'My rights are being violated.
Protect me!'
"He never gave her the time of day. But after this went on and on he
said to himself, 'I care nothing what God thinks, even less what
people think. But because this widow won't quit badgering me, I'd
better do something and see that she gets justice – otherwise I'm
going to end up beaten black and blue by her pounding.'"
Then the Master said, "Do you hear what that judge, corrupt as he is,
is saying? So what makes you think God won't step in and work justice
for his chosen people, who continue to cry out for help? Won't he
stick up for them? I assure you, he will. He will not drag his feet.
But how much of that kind of persistent faith will the Son of Man find
on the earth when he returns?" (Luke 18:1-8 MSG)
We don't know what caused her distress, but this widow needed justice
and she went looking for it – with no weapon but persistence. Going to
the judge's home, she knocked on the unsympathetic man's door
repeatedly until he finally gave her what she was seeking.
Is God telling us he'll only answer our prayers if we wear him down? No!
He's reminding us that if a heartless judge can be reached, we can
certainly count on our Father – who loves us – to help us.
People ask, "Why aren't my prayers answered sooner? Why keep trying?"
Sometimes, we ask for a small blessing and get no answer – but find
out later that God denied us because he wanted to give us something
bigger.
I read about a missionary who prayed for eight years for one
conversion. None occurred but he kept on praying. One day the whole
tribe made their decision together and 12,000 were baptized.
Any time there is a delay, you can be sure that two things are going
on – your faith is being tested by God and contested by Satan. Satan
wants to discourage you, but God is testing your faith because he
knows that faith is a muscle. Waiting develops the muscle.
I read about another missionary named Reese House. While in England,
God called him to go to Africa, but he first had to find money for
train tickets to London and then money for passage to Africa.
But one day God asked, "What would you do if you had the money?" Reese
said, "I'd go to London and then get on a ship to Africa."
Leadership Development – Encouragement
Find some encouragement for your own ministry or encourage the
ministry of someone else. Check out this 14-message leadership series
on encouragement. These lessons were first taught to the leaders of
Saddleback Church by Rick Warren.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
God asked, "Am I the source of all your needs?"
"Yes."
"Then go."
So Reese and his wife announced to their church, "We're heading to
Africa." They only had enough money to get about 50 miles down the
road, but they bought train tickets anyway and went as far as they
could. Fifty miles later, they found themselves sitting in the train
station, feeling foolish.
But God spoke again to Reese. "If you had the money, what would you do?"
"I'd buy a ticket."
God said, "Get in line." He got in line behind about 18 people and
stood there as the line kept getting smaller. Reese had no money and
he kept thinking, "Boy, am I going to look dumb when I get up to that
ticket desk!"
When there were only two people ahead of him, Reese said, "Lord! I
look stupid here!"
And just then, the man in front of Reese turned around and said, "I've
changed my mind. I'm not going. Here! You can have my money."
Would it surprise you to hear that it was enough money to get Reese to Africa?
God's timing is perfect. It always is and it always will be! So next
time you feel discouraged about a prayer request, don't give up – look
up!
source:minstry toolbox
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Any time there is a delay, you can be sure that two things are going
on – your faith is being tested by God and contested by Satan.
Rick Warren
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Jesus told them a story showing that it was necessary for them to pray
consistently and never quit. He said, "There was once a judge in some
city who never gave God a thought and cared nothing for people. A
widow in that city kept after him: 'My rights are being violated.
Protect me!'
"He never gave her the time of day. But after this went on and on he
said to himself, 'I care nothing what God thinks, even less what
people think. But because this widow won't quit badgering me, I'd
better do something and see that she gets justice – otherwise I'm
going to end up beaten black and blue by her pounding.'"
Then the Master said, "Do you hear what that judge, corrupt as he is,
is saying? So what makes you think God won't step in and work justice
for his chosen people, who continue to cry out for help? Won't he
stick up for them? I assure you, he will. He will not drag his feet.
But how much of that kind of persistent faith will the Son of Man find
on the earth when he returns?" (Luke 18:1-8 MSG)
We don't know what caused her distress, but this widow needed justice
and she went looking for it – with no weapon but persistence. Going to
the judge's home, she knocked on the unsympathetic man's door
repeatedly until he finally gave her what she was seeking.
Is God telling us he'll only answer our prayers if we wear him down? No!
He's reminding us that if a heartless judge can be reached, we can
certainly count on our Father – who loves us – to help us.
People ask, "Why aren't my prayers answered sooner? Why keep trying?"
Sometimes, we ask for a small blessing and get no answer – but find
out later that God denied us because he wanted to give us something
bigger.
I read about a missionary who prayed for eight years for one
conversion. None occurred but he kept on praying. One day the whole
tribe made their decision together and 12,000 were baptized.
Any time there is a delay, you can be sure that two things are going
on – your faith is being tested by God and contested by Satan. Satan
wants to discourage you, but God is testing your faith because he
knows that faith is a muscle. Waiting develops the muscle.
I read about another missionary named Reese House. While in England,
God called him to go to Africa, but he first had to find money for
train tickets to London and then money for passage to Africa.
But one day God asked, "What would you do if you had the money?" Reese
said, "I'd go to London and then get on a ship to Africa."
Leadership Development – Encouragement
Find some encouragement for your own ministry or encourage the
ministry of someone else. Check out this 14-message leadership series
on encouragement. These lessons were first taught to the leaders of
Saddleback Church by Rick Warren.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
God asked, "Am I the source of all your needs?"
"Yes."
"Then go."
So Reese and his wife announced to their church, "We're heading to
Africa." They only had enough money to get about 50 miles down the
road, but they bought train tickets anyway and went as far as they
could. Fifty miles later, they found themselves sitting in the train
station, feeling foolish.
But God spoke again to Reese. "If you had the money, what would you do?"
"I'd buy a ticket."
God said, "Get in line." He got in line behind about 18 people and
stood there as the line kept getting smaller. Reese had no money and
he kept thinking, "Boy, am I going to look dumb when I get up to that
ticket desk!"
When there were only two people ahead of him, Reese said, "Lord! I
look stupid here!"
And just then, the man in front of Reese turned around and said, "I've
changed my mind. I'm not going. Here! You can have my money."
Would it surprise you to hear that it was enough money to get Reese to Africa?
God's timing is perfect. It always is and it always will be! So next
time you feel discouraged about a prayer request, don't give up – look
up!
See Jesus through the Eyes of Those Who Were with Him
author: Whitney Hopler
source: crosswalk
The following is a report on the practical applications of Richard
Exley's new book, Encounters with Christ: Experience the Miracles and
Transforming Power of an Unexpected Savior, (White Stone Books, 2006).
Although you can't travel back in time to see Jesus face to face, you
can discover more about Him through the eyes of those who did see Him
in person all those years ago. Your faith will come alive as you study
the lives of some people who encountered Jesus in person.
Here are some lessons you can learn from them:
* The Daughter of Jairus (Luke 8:40-55): Be willing to take whatever
risks are necessary to approach Jesus when you need healing. Don't be
shy about asking Him for help. Humble yourself and don't worry about
other people's ridicule. Cast all your anxiety on Jesus, because He
cares for you, and trust Him to reach out to you when you need His
touch.
* A Desperate Woman (Mark 5:25-34): Rest assured that, no matter how
desperate your circumstances are, you haven't been abandoned. Know
that God still sees and cares about you. Ask Him to give you fresh
hope. Remember His miracles. Get rid of hurt and bitterness in your
heart so it doesn't block your intimacy with Jesus. Ask Him to help
you forgive, and rely on His strength to do so. Then step out of your
comfort zone and pursue healing. Put your past disappointments behind
you and ask God to help you overcome your doubts.
* The Adulteress (John 8:2-11): Realize that, if God has forgiven you
for your sins, you shouldn't condemn yourself. Understand that there
is absolutely nothing you can do to make God love you any less; His
mercies never end. Also understand that there is absolutely nothing
you can do to make God love you any more; it's impossible to earn His
love. Accept the fact that God already loves you deeply and
completely, simply because that's the kind of God He is. Know that God
loves you just the way you are – but He loves you too much to leave
you that way, so He wants to forgive your sins and set you free to
become all you were meant to become. Don't try to hide your sins or
justify them. Instead, confess your sins openly and honestly, trusting
that God will forgive and help you.
* The Sinner (Luke 7:36-50): Go ahead and express the full depth of
your love for God. Show God how grateful you are for all He has done
in your life. Worship with sincerity and enthusiasm. Celebrate the
fact that, despite your sin, God's love will never let you go. Know
that God's grace is greater than your sin, and, no matter how hopeless
your current situation may seem, He is always able to restore you.
Admit that you're powerless to save yourself, and call on Jesus to
forgive your sins and heal your hurts. Leave your old life behind and
walk confidently into the new one He offers you.
* The Paralytic (John 5:1-15): Never give up hope that God will
intervene to help you at the right time, no matter how long you've
suffered. Understand that no one is so lost that he or she can't be
found, and that no one is beyond the reach of Jesus' compassion. If
you don't have much faith, don't despair. Instead, ask God to give you
more faith. Approach God with confidence – not based on your personal
goodness or merit, but on God's character. Don't focus on yourself or
your needs, but on His sufficiency. Remember that God is able to do
much more in your life than you ask or imagine.
* The Woman at the Well (John 4:1-29): Believe that God will not
reject you, even though He knows your darkest secrets. Don't try to
pretend to be someone you're not, lie about your life, or cover up
your sins and struggles. Instead, invite Jesus to confront you with
the truth about your past, and come clean with Him. Ask God to free
you from guilt, shame, and fear. Ask Him to flood your soul with His
forgiveness, peace, and love. Remember that, in Jesus, you're a new
creation. Leave the past in the past and embrace your future with
enthusiasm.
* The Syrophenician Woman (Matthew 15:21-28): Trust in Jesus' power
over evil. Understand that He intervenes on your behalf not because
you're good, but because of His own goodness. Instead of approaching
Jesus on the basis of your need, demonstrate your faith to Him. Know
that He will notice and reward sincere faith. Be persistent in asking
for His help, and be willing to take whatever risks are necessary to
pursue Him. Remember that God, your heavenly Father, has made you in
His image and will never forget you because you're a part of Him.
Don't be afraid to press forward in faith, asking Him for the help you
need.
* The Man Born Blind (John 9:1-38): Invite God to open your spiritual
eyes to see Him as He truly is – and know that the truth will set you
free. Understand that illness isn't necessarily the result of your own
sin; it's often just a natural consequence of living in our fallen
world. Also realize that living a faithful life likely won't spare you
from experiencing physical suffering. When illness or tragedy strikes
you, resist the temptation to speak when God hasn't spoken. Accept
that sometimes God chooses not to explain why something is happening
to you. Instead of asking God about the cause, ask Him about the
purpose – what He wants you to learn from the experience. Ask Him to
give you peace in contentment in the midst of your suffering.
* Nicodemus (John 3:1-18): Rather than placing your ultimate hopes in
religion, place them in a relationship – your connection with God
through Jesus. Know that it's impossible to earn your salvation.
Understand that you won't be condemned for anything you've done, but
only for not doing the most important thing in life – placing your
trust in Jesus. If you haven't yet received Jesus as your personal
Savior, do so now.
* The Two on the Road to Emmaus (Luke 24:13-35): Don't just believe in
Jesus intellectually without knowing Him personally. Ask God to help
your faith travel from your head to your heart. Be alert for God's
constant presence in your life and notice ways in which He's working.
Realize that life's mundane moments are just as holy as more dramatic
ones. Make a habit of looking for clues all around you that point
toward God.
* Saul of Tarsus (Acts 9:1-19; 22:1-16): Have confidence that God will
go to extremes to get your attention because He loves you deeply. Know
that, no matter what mistakes you may have made in the past, God's
grace won't give up on you. Harness your passion for good instead of
evil by discovering God's purpose for your life and pursuing that
purpose with devotion.
* John the Apostle (Revelation 1:9-18): When you encounter difficult
circumstances, don't resent the unfairness and fight against your
situation. Instead, make peace with where you are right now, and ask
God to use even the worst circumstances to make you into the best
person you can be. Don't be afraid; remember that Jesus will never
leave or forsake you. Keep in mind that the fallen world you see is
temporary, but the invisible spiritual world is eternal. Rest assured
that no matter how grim world situations are right now, the kingdom of
God will ultimately triumph, with good overcoming evil. Pray for Jesus
to keep establishing His kingdom through you and other believers, and
for His will to be done on earth as it is in heaven.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Adapted from Encounters with Christ: Experience the Miracles and
Transforming Power of an Unexpected Savior, copyright 2005 by Richard
Exley. Published by White Stone Books, Inc., Lakeland, Fl.,
www.whitestonebooks.com.
Richard Exley is a gifted communicator who travels the country
speaking in church, conference, and retreat settings. His rich and
diversified background has included pastoring churches in Colorado and
Oklahoma, as well as hosting several popular radio programs, including
Straight from the Heart. Exley's bestselling books include The Rhythm
of Life, Blue Collar Christianity, Witness the Passion, and Strength
for the Storm. When not traveling the country as a speaker, Richard
and his wife, Brenda Starr, spend their time in a cabin overlooking
picturesque Beaver Lake in Northwest Arkansas. Richard is an aspiring
bass fisherman and a noted amateur photographer.
source: crosswalk
The following is a report on the practical applications of Richard
Exley's new book, Encounters with Christ: Experience the Miracles and
Transforming Power of an Unexpected Savior, (White Stone Books, 2006).
Although you can't travel back in time to see Jesus face to face, you
can discover more about Him through the eyes of those who did see Him
in person all those years ago. Your faith will come alive as you study
the lives of some people who encountered Jesus in person.
Here are some lessons you can learn from them:
* The Daughter of Jairus (Luke 8:40-55): Be willing to take whatever
risks are necessary to approach Jesus when you need healing. Don't be
shy about asking Him for help. Humble yourself and don't worry about
other people's ridicule. Cast all your anxiety on Jesus, because He
cares for you, and trust Him to reach out to you when you need His
touch.
* A Desperate Woman (Mark 5:25-34): Rest assured that, no matter how
desperate your circumstances are, you haven't been abandoned. Know
that God still sees and cares about you. Ask Him to give you fresh
hope. Remember His miracles. Get rid of hurt and bitterness in your
heart so it doesn't block your intimacy with Jesus. Ask Him to help
you forgive, and rely on His strength to do so. Then step out of your
comfort zone and pursue healing. Put your past disappointments behind
you and ask God to help you overcome your doubts.
* The Adulteress (John 8:2-11): Realize that, if God has forgiven you
for your sins, you shouldn't condemn yourself. Understand that there
is absolutely nothing you can do to make God love you any less; His
mercies never end. Also understand that there is absolutely nothing
you can do to make God love you any more; it's impossible to earn His
love. Accept the fact that God already loves you deeply and
completely, simply because that's the kind of God He is. Know that God
loves you just the way you are – but He loves you too much to leave
you that way, so He wants to forgive your sins and set you free to
become all you were meant to become. Don't try to hide your sins or
justify them. Instead, confess your sins openly and honestly, trusting
that God will forgive and help you.
* The Sinner (Luke 7:36-50): Go ahead and express the full depth of
your love for God. Show God how grateful you are for all He has done
in your life. Worship with sincerity and enthusiasm. Celebrate the
fact that, despite your sin, God's love will never let you go. Know
that God's grace is greater than your sin, and, no matter how hopeless
your current situation may seem, He is always able to restore you.
Admit that you're powerless to save yourself, and call on Jesus to
forgive your sins and heal your hurts. Leave your old life behind and
walk confidently into the new one He offers you.
* The Paralytic (John 5:1-15): Never give up hope that God will
intervene to help you at the right time, no matter how long you've
suffered. Understand that no one is so lost that he or she can't be
found, and that no one is beyond the reach of Jesus' compassion. If
you don't have much faith, don't despair. Instead, ask God to give you
more faith. Approach God with confidence – not based on your personal
goodness or merit, but on God's character. Don't focus on yourself or
your needs, but on His sufficiency. Remember that God is able to do
much more in your life than you ask or imagine.
* The Woman at the Well (John 4:1-29): Believe that God will not
reject you, even though He knows your darkest secrets. Don't try to
pretend to be someone you're not, lie about your life, or cover up
your sins and struggles. Instead, invite Jesus to confront you with
the truth about your past, and come clean with Him. Ask God to free
you from guilt, shame, and fear. Ask Him to flood your soul with His
forgiveness, peace, and love. Remember that, in Jesus, you're a new
creation. Leave the past in the past and embrace your future with
enthusiasm.
* The Syrophenician Woman (Matthew 15:21-28): Trust in Jesus' power
over evil. Understand that He intervenes on your behalf not because
you're good, but because of His own goodness. Instead of approaching
Jesus on the basis of your need, demonstrate your faith to Him. Know
that He will notice and reward sincere faith. Be persistent in asking
for His help, and be willing to take whatever risks are necessary to
pursue Him. Remember that God, your heavenly Father, has made you in
His image and will never forget you because you're a part of Him.
Don't be afraid to press forward in faith, asking Him for the help you
need.
* The Man Born Blind (John 9:1-38): Invite God to open your spiritual
eyes to see Him as He truly is – and know that the truth will set you
free. Understand that illness isn't necessarily the result of your own
sin; it's often just a natural consequence of living in our fallen
world. Also realize that living a faithful life likely won't spare you
from experiencing physical suffering. When illness or tragedy strikes
you, resist the temptation to speak when God hasn't spoken. Accept
that sometimes God chooses not to explain why something is happening
to you. Instead of asking God about the cause, ask Him about the
purpose – what He wants you to learn from the experience. Ask Him to
give you peace in contentment in the midst of your suffering.
* Nicodemus (John 3:1-18): Rather than placing your ultimate hopes in
religion, place them in a relationship – your connection with God
through Jesus. Know that it's impossible to earn your salvation.
Understand that you won't be condemned for anything you've done, but
only for not doing the most important thing in life – placing your
trust in Jesus. If you haven't yet received Jesus as your personal
Savior, do so now.
* The Two on the Road to Emmaus (Luke 24:13-35): Don't just believe in
Jesus intellectually without knowing Him personally. Ask God to help
your faith travel from your head to your heart. Be alert for God's
constant presence in your life and notice ways in which He's working.
Realize that life's mundane moments are just as holy as more dramatic
ones. Make a habit of looking for clues all around you that point
toward God.
* Saul of Tarsus (Acts 9:1-19; 22:1-16): Have confidence that God will
go to extremes to get your attention because He loves you deeply. Know
that, no matter what mistakes you may have made in the past, God's
grace won't give up on you. Harness your passion for good instead of
evil by discovering God's purpose for your life and pursuing that
purpose with devotion.
* John the Apostle (Revelation 1:9-18): When you encounter difficult
circumstances, don't resent the unfairness and fight against your
situation. Instead, make peace with where you are right now, and ask
God to use even the worst circumstances to make you into the best
person you can be. Don't be afraid; remember that Jesus will never
leave or forsake you. Keep in mind that the fallen world you see is
temporary, but the invisible spiritual world is eternal. Rest assured
that no matter how grim world situations are right now, the kingdom of
God will ultimately triumph, with good overcoming evil. Pray for Jesus
to keep establishing His kingdom through you and other believers, and
for His will to be done on earth as it is in heaven.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Adapted from Encounters with Christ: Experience the Miracles and
Transforming Power of an Unexpected Savior, copyright 2005 by Richard
Exley. Published by White Stone Books, Inc., Lakeland, Fl.,
www.whitestonebooks.com.
Richard Exley is a gifted communicator who travels the country
speaking in church, conference, and retreat settings. His rich and
diversified background has included pastoring churches in Colorado and
Oklahoma, as well as hosting several popular radio programs, including
Straight from the Heart. Exley's bestselling books include The Rhythm
of Life, Blue Collar Christianity, Witness the Passion, and Strength
for the Storm. When not traveling the country as a speaker, Richard
and his wife, Brenda Starr, spend their time in a cabin overlooking
picturesque Beaver Lake in Northwest Arkansas. Richard is an aspiring
bass fisherman and a noted amateur photographer.
Forget Kryptonite
source: Heidi Guthrie (Blythe)
thank you helpmet!
Who doesn't want strength??We can go to any health food store, fitness center, or just sit and watch the commercials on ESPN to know that the world is searching for the ultimate source of strength. Baseball players have fallen from popularity searching for it, young men and women have died trying to attain it, and countless scientists are spending their lives trying to find the secret for it.
Well, guess what? It's no secret! I have found the source of strength, and it's not in a bottle, powder or pill. It's recipe is found in a book that we all have easy access to, and it's been free to the public for several thousands of years!
Are you ready? Can you handle it?? Here it is:
Nehemiah 8:10 ..."Do not be grieved, for the Joy of the Lord is your strength."
I once heard a sermon on Joy from the late, great Adrian Rogers. He had a handle on strength, to be sure. He once shared a story about how a demon-possessed man jumped from the balcony of his church, landed on his feet, and started running toward him. Pastor Rogers put his hand out, called out to the powerful name of Jesus, and a few hundred witnesses attested to the fact that it looked as though the man had suddenly run into a plexiglass wall and fell flat on his back. Now, that's what I call strength!!
So, when Pastor Rogers started speaking about strength, I perked up and listened. He shared that most of us live our lives in the pursuit of happiness.
It's our inalienable right, after all. The problem with happiness, however, is that the root word of happiness is "happen." Therefore, happiness is based on happenstance, or what happens in our lives. Happiness is fleeting, because it is situational and based upon our present circumstances.
Not so with JOY!! Joy, for a Christian, goes so much deeper than mere happiness!
JOY is constant: Acts 13:52 And the disciples were continually filled with Joy and the Holy Spirit.
JOY is filling: Romans 14:17 For the Kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and Joy in the Holy Spirit.
JOY is contagious: II Corinthians 2:3 ...having confidence in you all, that my joy would be the joy of you all.
JOY is comforting: II Corinthians 7:4 I am filled with comfort. I am overflowing with joy in all our affliction.
JOY is unconditional: James 1:2 Count it all joy, my brethren, when you face various trials...
JOY is commanded: Philippians 4:4 Rejoice in the Lord always, and again I say rejoice!!
JOY is Christ's example: Heb 12:2-3 ...fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
JOY is indestructible: John 16:22 Therefore you too now have sorrow; but I will see you again, and your heart will rejoice, and no one takes your joy away from you.
Forget Kryptonite!! It's not an issue! While Superman's strength can be zapped by others, our joy as Christians can only be given away!
Now, THAT'S strength!!
And one more for the road, Dear Sisters...
This one's for you, and it's absolutely true!!
Phil 1:3-5 I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always offering prayer with JOY in my every prayer for you all, in view of your participation in the gospel from the first day until now.
Be full of JOY today, Dear Ones!
thank you helpmet!
Who doesn't want strength??We can go to any health food store, fitness center, or just sit and watch the commercials on ESPN to know that the world is searching for the ultimate source of strength. Baseball players have fallen from popularity searching for it, young men and women have died trying to attain it, and countless scientists are spending their lives trying to find the secret for it.
Well, guess what? It's no secret! I have found the source of strength, and it's not in a bottle, powder or pill. It's recipe is found in a book that we all have easy access to, and it's been free to the public for several thousands of years!
Are you ready? Can you handle it?? Here it is:
Nehemiah 8:10 ..."Do not be grieved, for the Joy of the Lord is your strength."
I once heard a sermon on Joy from the late, great Adrian Rogers. He had a handle on strength, to be sure. He once shared a story about how a demon-possessed man jumped from the balcony of his church, landed on his feet, and started running toward him. Pastor Rogers put his hand out, called out to the powerful name of Jesus, and a few hundred witnesses attested to the fact that it looked as though the man had suddenly run into a plexiglass wall and fell flat on his back. Now, that's what I call strength!!
So, when Pastor Rogers started speaking about strength, I perked up and listened. He shared that most of us live our lives in the pursuit of happiness.
It's our inalienable right, after all. The problem with happiness, however, is that the root word of happiness is "happen." Therefore, happiness is based on happenstance, or what happens in our lives. Happiness is fleeting, because it is situational and based upon our present circumstances.
Not so with JOY!! Joy, for a Christian, goes so much deeper than mere happiness!
JOY is constant: Acts 13:52 And the disciples were continually filled with Joy and the Holy Spirit.
JOY is filling: Romans 14:17 For the Kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and Joy in the Holy Spirit.
JOY is contagious: II Corinthians 2:3 ...having confidence in you all, that my joy would be the joy of you all.
JOY is comforting: II Corinthians 7:4 I am filled with comfort. I am overflowing with joy in all our affliction.
JOY is unconditional: James 1:2 Count it all joy, my brethren, when you face various trials...
JOY is commanded: Philippians 4:4 Rejoice in the Lord always, and again I say rejoice!!
JOY is Christ's example: Heb 12:2-3 ...fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
JOY is indestructible: John 16:22 Therefore you too now have sorrow; but I will see you again, and your heart will rejoice, and no one takes your joy away from you.
Forget Kryptonite!! It's not an issue! While Superman's strength can be zapped by others, our joy as Christians can only be given away!
Now, THAT'S strength!!
And one more for the road, Dear Sisters...
This one's for you, and it's absolutely true!!
Phil 1:3-5 I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always offering prayer with JOY in my every prayer for you all, in view of your participation in the gospel from the first day until now.
Be full of JOY today, Dear Ones!
Film Review: One Night With the King
Latest Esther Movie Inspires in "One Night With the King"
Lisa Rice ,Contributing Writer
source: Crosswalk
Release Date: October 13, 2006
Rating: PG (for violence, some sensuality and thematic elements)
Genre: Drama/History/Action
Run Time: 115 min.
Director: Michael O. Sajbel
Actors: Peter O'Toole, Omar Sharif, John Rhys-Davies, Luke Goss, John
Noble, Tommy Lister, James Callis, Jonah Lotan, Tiffany Dupont.
Since 1913, Hollywood has produced at least nine movies about the
biblical Esther, but perhaps the most intriguing – and doubtless the
most expensive – is the Esther movie hitting theaters this weekend.
Produced by "Omega Code's" Matt and Laurie Crouch of Gener8Xion
Entertainment, Inc., "One Night with the King" does a laudable job
telling the timeless, inspiring story of a young girl's bravery amidst
treachery, scandal, and genocide.
Based on the Tommy Tenney's novel, "Hadassah: One Night with the
King," the movie portrays beautiful Esther (Tiffany Dupont), a Jewish
orphan girl who is rounded up, along with others, to basically
audition – on her "night with the king" for the newly vacated role of
Xerxes' queen. Little does she know, however, that Haman the Agagite
(James Callis), the jealous and powerful high official of King Xerxes
(Ahasuerus) of Persia (485-464 B.C.), has determined to destroy, in a
single day, all the Jews living in the Persian Empire.
Haman is moved to genocide out of hatred for the Jews, especially
Esther's uncle Mordecai (John Rhys-Davies), whose single-minded
devotion to God prevents him from rendering homage to man. The day of
the proposed massacre is determined by lot and signed into law.
Meanwhile, the bright and witty Esther is chosen queen by King Xerxes
in place of Vashti. She quickly finds that her new role will not
simply be to live as a pampered queen with a handsome king (Luke
Goss), but rather could be to save her people from total annihilation.
She will have to draw upon the Scripture hidden in her heart – as well
as bravery and cleverness – if she is to avert the pogrom planned
against her people and have the royal decree of extermination reversed
against Haman and the enemies of the Jews.
"One Night with the King" was shot entirely on location in Rajasthan –
India 's own "Land of the Kings," in a palace where a typical room
measures 250' x 150', with 65' ceilings. To put it in perspective,
the king's bedroom is larger than the Capitol building in Washington,
D.C. The cinematography and special effects are stunning and include
massive, breathtaking, multi-story waterfalls pouring down from
openings on either side of a colossal drawbridge.
There's nothing skimpy about the acting, either. Peter O'Toole, Omar
Sharif, and John Rhys-Davies add the class and credibility of an epic,
and newcomer Tiffany Dupont is charming and refreshing as the
sharp-minded Esther. Chosen for the role out of 2,500 women who
auditioned worldwide, Tiffany was spotted by producers at Calvary
Chapel Church in Los Angeles. Jack Redford composed the moving music
score, which includes moving segments from the Russian Philharmonic.
"One Night With the King" is worth seeing just for the palace,
effects, music score, and acting, but the true takeaway is the story.
The film opens with a flashback to the time when King Saul refused to
obey God and utterly destroy every man, woman, child, and beast of the
Amalekite army. Saul spared the king and his pregnant queen, who
managed to escape. Her offspring became the Agagites (including
Haman), a fierce, Jew-hating tribe bent on avenging themselves against
the Jews. According to author and teacher Kay Arthur (Precept
Ministries International), the Amalekites always symbolize the flesh,
and when the flesh is not utterly destroyed, the devastating
ramifications will be far-reaching.
The most important lesson in "King," however, is the sense of destiny
and purpose God has for those who are willing to undergo the scourge
of tribulation and the fire of delayed answers. Esther was an orphan
who was obedient and faithful to her uncle and her God, and because
she drew upon all that had been planted in her soul since childhood on
the day of reckoning, she changed the destiny of a nation.
The only element of the story that competes with the inspirational
lessons is the sub-plot of the eunuchs. It's made clear that Jewish
boys were also captured and forcefully castrated to be placed in the
king's service, and such gruesomeness happens to Esther's good friend,
Jesse (Jonah Lotan). Thankfully, nothing is shown onscreen, but the
theme is disturbing enough to possibly overshadow the story's
uplifting elements.
Another caution is that the plot can be complicated at times, and
families would do well to go over the Bible story – even with their
teenage children – before seeing the movie. Despite these drawbacks,
however, the timeless story and breathtaking scenes of the palace do
make up for the movie's imperfections. "One Night with the King"
should have high appeal to adults and older children of many cultures
and faiths.
AUDIENCE: Adults, teens and mature children
CAUTIONS:
Drugs/Alcohol: None
Language: None
Sex: None, except the sub-plot of the eunuchs. Nothing is shown, but
the message is clear that Jewish boys were captured and forcefully
castrated to be placed in the king's service. The theme could be
disturbing to children and younger teens.
Violence: Genocide plans formulated, including the forceful rounding
up of Jews; warfare depicted with Amalekites; Haman knocks out
Mordecai, etc.
Lisa Rice ,Contributing Writer
source: Crosswalk
Release Date: October 13, 2006
Rating: PG (for violence, some sensuality and thematic elements)
Genre: Drama/History/Action
Run Time: 115 min.
Director: Michael O. Sajbel
Actors: Peter O'Toole, Omar Sharif, John Rhys-Davies, Luke Goss, John
Noble, Tommy Lister, James Callis, Jonah Lotan, Tiffany Dupont.
Since 1913, Hollywood has produced at least nine movies about the
biblical Esther, but perhaps the most intriguing – and doubtless the
most expensive – is the Esther movie hitting theaters this weekend.
Produced by "Omega Code's" Matt and Laurie Crouch of Gener8Xion
Entertainment, Inc., "One Night with the King" does a laudable job
telling the timeless, inspiring story of a young girl's bravery amidst
treachery, scandal, and genocide.
Based on the Tommy Tenney's novel, "Hadassah: One Night with the
King," the movie portrays beautiful Esther (Tiffany Dupont), a Jewish
orphan girl who is rounded up, along with others, to basically
audition – on her "night with the king" for the newly vacated role of
Xerxes' queen. Little does she know, however, that Haman the Agagite
(James Callis), the jealous and powerful high official of King Xerxes
(Ahasuerus) of Persia (485-464 B.C.), has determined to destroy, in a
single day, all the Jews living in the Persian Empire.
Haman is moved to genocide out of hatred for the Jews, especially
Esther's uncle Mordecai (John Rhys-Davies), whose single-minded
devotion to God prevents him from rendering homage to man. The day of
the proposed massacre is determined by lot and signed into law.
Meanwhile, the bright and witty Esther is chosen queen by King Xerxes
in place of Vashti. She quickly finds that her new role will not
simply be to live as a pampered queen with a handsome king (Luke
Goss), but rather could be to save her people from total annihilation.
She will have to draw upon the Scripture hidden in her heart – as well
as bravery and cleverness – if she is to avert the pogrom planned
against her people and have the royal decree of extermination reversed
against Haman and the enemies of the Jews.
"One Night with the King" was shot entirely on location in Rajasthan –
India 's own "Land of the Kings," in a palace where a typical room
measures 250' x 150', with 65' ceilings. To put it in perspective,
the king's bedroom is larger than the Capitol building in Washington,
D.C. The cinematography and special effects are stunning and include
massive, breathtaking, multi-story waterfalls pouring down from
openings on either side of a colossal drawbridge.
There's nothing skimpy about the acting, either. Peter O'Toole, Omar
Sharif, and John Rhys-Davies add the class and credibility of an epic,
and newcomer Tiffany Dupont is charming and refreshing as the
sharp-minded Esther. Chosen for the role out of 2,500 women who
auditioned worldwide, Tiffany was spotted by producers at Calvary
Chapel Church in Los Angeles. Jack Redford composed the moving music
score, which includes moving segments from the Russian Philharmonic.
"One Night With the King" is worth seeing just for the palace,
effects, music score, and acting, but the true takeaway is the story.
The film opens with a flashback to the time when King Saul refused to
obey God and utterly destroy every man, woman, child, and beast of the
Amalekite army. Saul spared the king and his pregnant queen, who
managed to escape. Her offspring became the Agagites (including
Haman), a fierce, Jew-hating tribe bent on avenging themselves against
the Jews. According to author and teacher Kay Arthur (Precept
Ministries International), the Amalekites always symbolize the flesh,
and when the flesh is not utterly destroyed, the devastating
ramifications will be far-reaching.
The most important lesson in "King," however, is the sense of destiny
and purpose God has for those who are willing to undergo the scourge
of tribulation and the fire of delayed answers. Esther was an orphan
who was obedient and faithful to her uncle and her God, and because
she drew upon all that had been planted in her soul since childhood on
the day of reckoning, she changed the destiny of a nation.
The only element of the story that competes with the inspirational
lessons is the sub-plot of the eunuchs. It's made clear that Jewish
boys were also captured and forcefully castrated to be placed in the
king's service, and such gruesomeness happens to Esther's good friend,
Jesse (Jonah Lotan). Thankfully, nothing is shown onscreen, but the
theme is disturbing enough to possibly overshadow the story's
uplifting elements.
Another caution is that the plot can be complicated at times, and
families would do well to go over the Bible story – even with their
teenage children – before seeing the movie. Despite these drawbacks,
however, the timeless story and breathtaking scenes of the palace do
make up for the movie's imperfections. "One Night with the King"
should have high appeal to adults and older children of many cultures
and faiths.
AUDIENCE: Adults, teens and mature children
CAUTIONS:
Drugs/Alcohol: None
Language: None
Sex: None, except the sub-plot of the eunuchs. Nothing is shown, but
the message is clear that Jewish boys were captured and forcefully
castrated to be placed in the king's service. The theme could be
disturbing to children and younger teens.
Violence: Genocide plans formulated, including the forceful rounding
up of Jews; warfare depicted with Amalekites; Haman knocks out
Mordecai, etc.
Raise Respectful Kids in a Disrespectful World
author: Whitney Hopler
source:Crosswalk
Rude behavior, back talk, whining, foul language, and a lack of manners all show how commonplace disrespect has become in today’s society. With so
many poor role models around them, it’s easy for your children to sink to that same level. But when you teach them respect, you teach them to value themselves and others – and that will make them blessings to the world.
Here’s how you can raise respectful kids in a disrespectful world:
Build self-respect instead of self-esteem.
Realize that seeking to build your kids’ self-esteem will teach them to focus on themselves, how they feel, and what they want. Make it your goal to help them build self-control and self-discipline, which will lead to self-respect and place their focus on how others feel and what others need. Teach your kids to serve others rather than expecting to be served. Encourage them to contribute to the world rather than expect the world to give to them.
Be the person you want your kids to become.
Command your children’s respect by modeling what it looks like to be a respectful person. Ask God to help you live with integrity in all areas of your life, and to guide your speech and behavior. Know that when your children respect you, they can more easily respect God, others, and themselves.
Focus on character.
Don’t be a parent-centered parent (focusing on your own desires above what’s best for your children) or a child-centered parent (focusing on your children’s desires so much that you overindulge them). Instead, be a character-centered parent, focusing on producing strong
character in your kids. Make decisions with your goal in mind. Rely on wisdom from the Bible, which is timeless, instead of the latest trend from pop psychology. Keep the promises you make to your kids. Keep your priorities in the right order: God, spouse (if you have one), children, others, and self.
Use age-appropriate approaches.
Help kids ages birth to 2 years old build trust by establishing routines for them, setting a consistent schedule, and showing them that you’re in charge. Help kids ages 3 to 5 years old build a sense of security by offering them recognition, paying attention to them, and showing them that they belong in your family. Help kids ages 6 to 12 develop the ability to obey by building a close relationship with them, listening well to them, and being authentic. Help kids ages 13 to 19 to develop self-respect by giving them responsibility, enabling them to discover more about themselves, and transferring accountability to them.
Emphasize purpose rather than performance.
Examine your motives for trying to help your kids succeed. Ask yourself: "Do I want my child to be Number One? Or do I want my child to be the best he or she can be?" Don’t focus on what you want your child to do. Instead, consider who you want your child to become. Realize that character qualities like perseverance, honesty, and responsibility are much more important than academic knowledge or skills from extra-curricular activities. Ask God to help you inspire your kids out of a heart of love instead of pushing them out of a heart of selfish ambition. Help your children uncover their strengths and weaknesses by giving them plenty of opportunities to try out different activities, then looking for patterns to emerge. Ask: "What kinds of things is each child interested in?," "In what areas does each excel?" and "What things give each child joy?" Expose them to nature, good literature, museums, art, history, and other pursuits that can expand their horizons. Don’t push your kids to be perfect, realizing that
they never can be. Instead, simply encourage them to do the best they can. Accept your children for who they are, and don’t compare them with each other or classmates. Give your kids enough downtime for unstructured play on a regular basis, since they need that time to develop their creativity. Encourage them to build a close relationship with God through frequent prayer.
Be a coach, not a cheerleader.
Instead of offering your kids false praise and applauding mediocrity in their lives, offer them genuine praise that’s merited and expect excellence from them. Don’t neglect giving them the instruction they need. Motivate them through encouragement, rather than bribery or some other external means. Strive to inspire them by being a good role model in their lives. Don’t make excuses for your kids; let them know you believe they can do better when they fail to do their best. Dream big with your children and encourage them to hold onto hope for those dreams to come true.
Set boundaries without building walls.
Establish boundaries that help your children, but don’t create walls between you and them. Work with your spouse to present a united front to your kids. Choose some key issues that won’t be open for discussion, and stick to your word on them, no matter what. Stay emotionally connected to your kids, making sure they know you love them for who they are rather than what they do. Don’t give into the myth that small amounts of "quality time" will lead to a close relationship; know that you must have large quantities of time into your relationship with your kids if you want to be close to them. Make rules appropriate to your children’s ages.
Use discipline rather than punishment.
Recognize the crucial difference between discipline and punishment. Understand that discipline is meant to teach your kids important life lessons and motivate them, whereas punishment seeks to force control through shame, discouragement, and fear. Know that discipline encourages respect and leads to self-discipline, while punishment encourages resentment and leads to rebellion. Let your kids know that you love them unconditionally, but will not hesitate to follow through with appropriate consequences to reinforce lessons you’re teaching them. Remember that you’re not fighting your children; you’re battling the wrongness of their behavior. Be consistent and calm when following through, fit the discipline to the crime, ask your children to forgive you when you make mistakes, and continue to expect the best of your kids.
Shield your kids from hurtful content in popular culture.
Carefully monitor the magazines, books, music, movies, TV shows, video games, and Internet sites your children experience to protect them from disrespectful images and messages that can harm them. Only allow content that reflects your values. Watch, read, and listen to the media your kids do so you can discuss it together. Expose your children to thoughtful and inspiring culture, such as great literature and art. Be sure to practice what you preach by refraining from engaging in disrespectful media yourself.
Engage your kids instead of entertaining them.
Don’t just entertain your children with mindless amusements; engage their imaginations with
thought-provoking activities. Periodically unplug your telephone, TV, computer, and all other electrical devices that can distract you from spending focused time together as a family. Then use that time to have some old-fashioned fun together, such as by sharing stories, singing songs, playing games, and putting jigsaw puzzles together. Give your kids plenty of opportunities for creative play. Encourage them to carry books with them at all times so they can spend their downtime reading. Set aside a special place at home for reading and schedule time regularly for the whole family to read. Give your kids your undivided attention as often as you can, and engage them in meaningful conversations.
Teach gratefulness rather than greediness.
Understand that if you grant your kids’ every whim, they’ll keep wanting more and more, miss out on life’s simple pleasures, and never develop grateful hearts. Don’t substitute material gifts for what your children actually need – your presence and time with them. Guard against giving them too much and expecting too little of them. Train them in manners and money management. Regularly serve other people together as a family, so service will become a way of life for your kids. Help them learn to be content. Don’t allow whining or idleness. Assign your children chores on a regular basis to contribute to your household, hold them accountable for their responsibilities, and thank them for jobs they do well. Encourage them to work to help pay for extras they want, and teach them that good things come to those who wait. Ask them to give a portion of their own money to church or charity regularly.
Listen well.
Give your kids the invaluable gift of listening carefully to what they say. Whenever they share their thoughts and feelings with you, pay close attention and seek to genuinely understand them. Break free of distractions, make eye contact, and ask for clarification when you need it. Know that if you listen to your kids, they’ll be inspired to listen to you and grow to become respectful people.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Adapted from Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World, copyright 2006 by Jill Rigby. Published by Howard Books, a division of Simon &
Schuster, New York, N.Y., www.howardpublishing.com.
Jill Rigby is an accomplished speaker, columnist, television personality, family advocate, and founder of Manners of the Heart Community Fund, a nonprofit organization bringing a return of civility and respect to our society. Whether equipping parents to raise responsible children, encouraging the education of the heart, or training executives in effective communication skills, Jill’s definition of manners remains the same – an attitude of the heart that is self-giving, not self-serving. She is the proud mother of twin sons who testify to her contagious passion.
source:Crosswalk
Rude behavior, back talk, whining, foul language, and a lack of manners all show how commonplace disrespect has become in today’s society. With so
many poor role models around them, it’s easy for your children to sink to that same level. But when you teach them respect, you teach them to value themselves and others – and that will make them blessings to the world.
Here’s how you can raise respectful kids in a disrespectful world:
Build self-respect instead of self-esteem.
Realize that seeking to build your kids’ self-esteem will teach them to focus on themselves, how they feel, and what they want. Make it your goal to help them build self-control and self-discipline, which will lead to self-respect and place their focus on how others feel and what others need. Teach your kids to serve others rather than expecting to be served. Encourage them to contribute to the world rather than expect the world to give to them.
Be the person you want your kids to become.
Command your children’s respect by modeling what it looks like to be a respectful person. Ask God to help you live with integrity in all areas of your life, and to guide your speech and behavior. Know that when your children respect you, they can more easily respect God, others, and themselves.
Focus on character.
Don’t be a parent-centered parent (focusing on your own desires above what’s best for your children) or a child-centered parent (focusing on your children’s desires so much that you overindulge them). Instead, be a character-centered parent, focusing on producing strong
character in your kids. Make decisions with your goal in mind. Rely on wisdom from the Bible, which is timeless, instead of the latest trend from pop psychology. Keep the promises you make to your kids. Keep your priorities in the right order: God, spouse (if you have one), children, others, and self.
Use age-appropriate approaches.
Help kids ages birth to 2 years old build trust by establishing routines for them, setting a consistent schedule, and showing them that you’re in charge. Help kids ages 3 to 5 years old build a sense of security by offering them recognition, paying attention to them, and showing them that they belong in your family. Help kids ages 6 to 12 develop the ability to obey by building a close relationship with them, listening well to them, and being authentic. Help kids ages 13 to 19 to develop self-respect by giving them responsibility, enabling them to discover more about themselves, and transferring accountability to them.
Emphasize purpose rather than performance.
Examine your motives for trying to help your kids succeed. Ask yourself: "Do I want my child to be Number One? Or do I want my child to be the best he or she can be?" Don’t focus on what you want your child to do. Instead, consider who you want your child to become. Realize that character qualities like perseverance, honesty, and responsibility are much more important than academic knowledge or skills from extra-curricular activities. Ask God to help you inspire your kids out of a heart of love instead of pushing them out of a heart of selfish ambition. Help your children uncover their strengths and weaknesses by giving them plenty of opportunities to try out different activities, then looking for patterns to emerge. Ask: "What kinds of things is each child interested in?," "In what areas does each excel?" and "What things give each child joy?" Expose them to nature, good literature, museums, art, history, and other pursuits that can expand their horizons. Don’t push your kids to be perfect, realizing that
they never can be. Instead, simply encourage them to do the best they can. Accept your children for who they are, and don’t compare them with each other or classmates. Give your kids enough downtime for unstructured play on a regular basis, since they need that time to develop their creativity. Encourage them to build a close relationship with God through frequent prayer.
Be a coach, not a cheerleader.
Instead of offering your kids false praise and applauding mediocrity in their lives, offer them genuine praise that’s merited and expect excellence from them. Don’t neglect giving them the instruction they need. Motivate them through encouragement, rather than bribery or some other external means. Strive to inspire them by being a good role model in their lives. Don’t make excuses for your kids; let them know you believe they can do better when they fail to do their best. Dream big with your children and encourage them to hold onto hope for those dreams to come true.
Set boundaries without building walls.
Establish boundaries that help your children, but don’t create walls between you and them. Work with your spouse to present a united front to your kids. Choose some key issues that won’t be open for discussion, and stick to your word on them, no matter what. Stay emotionally connected to your kids, making sure they know you love them for who they are rather than what they do. Don’t give into the myth that small amounts of "quality time" will lead to a close relationship; know that you must have large quantities of time into your relationship with your kids if you want to be close to them. Make rules appropriate to your children’s ages.
Use discipline rather than punishment.
Recognize the crucial difference between discipline and punishment. Understand that discipline is meant to teach your kids important life lessons and motivate them, whereas punishment seeks to force control through shame, discouragement, and fear. Know that discipline encourages respect and leads to self-discipline, while punishment encourages resentment and leads to rebellion. Let your kids know that you love them unconditionally, but will not hesitate to follow through with appropriate consequences to reinforce lessons you’re teaching them. Remember that you’re not fighting your children; you’re battling the wrongness of their behavior. Be consistent and calm when following through, fit the discipline to the crime, ask your children to forgive you when you make mistakes, and continue to expect the best of your kids.
Shield your kids from hurtful content in popular culture.
Carefully monitor the magazines, books, music, movies, TV shows, video games, and Internet sites your children experience to protect them from disrespectful images and messages that can harm them. Only allow content that reflects your values. Watch, read, and listen to the media your kids do so you can discuss it together. Expose your children to thoughtful and inspiring culture, such as great literature and art. Be sure to practice what you preach by refraining from engaging in disrespectful media yourself.
Engage your kids instead of entertaining them.
Don’t just entertain your children with mindless amusements; engage their imaginations with
thought-provoking activities. Periodically unplug your telephone, TV, computer, and all other electrical devices that can distract you from spending focused time together as a family. Then use that time to have some old-fashioned fun together, such as by sharing stories, singing songs, playing games, and putting jigsaw puzzles together. Give your kids plenty of opportunities for creative play. Encourage them to carry books with them at all times so they can spend their downtime reading. Set aside a special place at home for reading and schedule time regularly for the whole family to read. Give your kids your undivided attention as often as you can, and engage them in meaningful conversations.
Teach gratefulness rather than greediness.
Understand that if you grant your kids’ every whim, they’ll keep wanting more and more, miss out on life’s simple pleasures, and never develop grateful hearts. Don’t substitute material gifts for what your children actually need – your presence and time with them. Guard against giving them too much and expecting too little of them. Train them in manners and money management. Regularly serve other people together as a family, so service will become a way of life for your kids. Help them learn to be content. Don’t allow whining or idleness. Assign your children chores on a regular basis to contribute to your household, hold them accountable for their responsibilities, and thank them for jobs they do well. Encourage them to work to help pay for extras they want, and teach them that good things come to those who wait. Ask them to give a portion of their own money to church or charity regularly.
Listen well.
Give your kids the invaluable gift of listening carefully to what they say. Whenever they share their thoughts and feelings with you, pay close attention and seek to genuinely understand them. Break free of distractions, make eye contact, and ask for clarification when you need it. Know that if you listen to your kids, they’ll be inspired to listen to you and grow to become respectful people.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Adapted from Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World, copyright 2006 by Jill Rigby. Published by Howard Books, a division of Simon &
Schuster, New York, N.Y., www.howardpublishing.com.
Jill Rigby is an accomplished speaker, columnist, television personality, family advocate, and founder of Manners of the Heart Community Fund, a nonprofit organization bringing a return of civility and respect to our society. Whether equipping parents to raise responsible children, encouraging the education of the heart, or training executives in effective communication skills, Jill’s definition of manners remains the same – an attitude of the heart that is self-giving, not self-serving. She is the proud mother of twin sons who testify to her contagious passion.
“An Unlikely Banquet”
author:
Van Walton, Proverbs 31 Speaker Team Member, Director of Hispanic Ministries
source: Crosswalk
Key Verse:
Psalm 23:5, “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies…” (NKJV)
Devotion:
The storm raged all night, traveling closer to shore with each passing moment. Waves roared and reached higher than normal. In the morning, although the beach was strewn with chairs, umbrellas, ice chests, and beach toys, the sun rose on a relatively calm shore, except for the busy birds. While rain and wind had created havoc during the night, the tempest had deposited a gift. The surging tide brought with it delicacies from the bottom of the ocean
– a feast for the birds living along the edge of the sea.
An obvious sand bar had been created by the recent surge in the sea and, in fascination, I watched as it became a banquet table of sorts. As the powerful waves rushed toward shore, they covered the sand bar. When the water retreated, a buffet table of seafood invited the birds to come and dine on the early morning meal that God and the storm had provided.
I couldn’t help but consider my own life and the storms that have threatened to tear me apart. Yet, those very storms have left behind riches that feed me for a lifetime.
Are you emerging from a storm? Have you found God’s bountiful provision within the raging winds? Have you noticed the good left behind after floods subsided?
As a child, I could hardly fathom the first storm mentioned in the Bible. I asked over and over again, “Why?” Today I believe I know. The storm that Noah endured cleansed, offered a new beginning, disciplined, and taught mighty lessons. Its purpose, according to Scripture, was to cleanse the earth of wickedness. (Genesis 6:5) and create a new start. God protected Noah, a righteous man, and his family from the flood and returned him to a new beginning once the waters disappeared.
Do you need cleansing from your past, a new beginning? The Bible says there is a new morning and gladness in it. Praise God for His new mercies, every morning.
My Prayer for Today:
Mighty and powerful Creator, Help me to use the storms in my life as an opportunity to approach Your banquet table, finding morsels that will sustain me as a result of Your generous hand. In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.
Application Steps:
God allows ‘storms’ to enter our lives for a purpose. Rather than resist the chaos, rest in the cleansing, and cling to Him.
Reflection Points:
Consider your most recent storm. Describe it. How did God use it to bring you closer to Him?
Is it possible that the storms in your life can be used to teach you how to reach out to those who are experiencing their own personal tempests?
Learn from Paul, how to endure storms. Read 2 Corinthians 11 and 12 and be inspired by his total trust in God.
Power Verses:
Psalm 36: 5-9, “Your unfailing love, O LORD, is as vast as the heavens;
your faithfulness reaches beyond the clouds. Your righteousness is like the mighty mountains, your justice like the ocean depths. You care for people and animals alike…You feed them from the abundance of your own house, letting them drink from your rivers of delight...” (NLT)
Lamentations 3:22-23, “Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” (NIV)
2 Corinthians 12:10, “Since I know it is all for Christ's good, I am quite content with my weaknesses and with insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (NLT)
Philippians 4:4, “Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!” (KJV)
Van Walton, Proverbs 31 Speaker Team Member, Director of Hispanic Ministries
source: Crosswalk
Key Verse:
Psalm 23:5, “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies…” (NKJV)
Devotion:
The storm raged all night, traveling closer to shore with each passing moment. Waves roared and reached higher than normal. In the morning, although the beach was strewn with chairs, umbrellas, ice chests, and beach toys, the sun rose on a relatively calm shore, except for the busy birds. While rain and wind had created havoc during the night, the tempest had deposited a gift. The surging tide brought with it delicacies from the bottom of the ocean
– a feast for the birds living along the edge of the sea.
An obvious sand bar had been created by the recent surge in the sea and, in fascination, I watched as it became a banquet table of sorts. As the powerful waves rushed toward shore, they covered the sand bar. When the water retreated, a buffet table of seafood invited the birds to come and dine on the early morning meal that God and the storm had provided.
I couldn’t help but consider my own life and the storms that have threatened to tear me apart. Yet, those very storms have left behind riches that feed me for a lifetime.
Are you emerging from a storm? Have you found God’s bountiful provision within the raging winds? Have you noticed the good left behind after floods subsided?
As a child, I could hardly fathom the first storm mentioned in the Bible. I asked over and over again, “Why?” Today I believe I know. The storm that Noah endured cleansed, offered a new beginning, disciplined, and taught mighty lessons. Its purpose, according to Scripture, was to cleanse the earth of wickedness. (Genesis 6:5) and create a new start. God protected Noah, a righteous man, and his family from the flood and returned him to a new beginning once the waters disappeared.
Do you need cleansing from your past, a new beginning? The Bible says there is a new morning and gladness in it. Praise God for His new mercies, every morning.
My Prayer for Today:
Mighty and powerful Creator, Help me to use the storms in my life as an opportunity to approach Your banquet table, finding morsels that will sustain me as a result of Your generous hand. In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.
Application Steps:
God allows ‘storms’ to enter our lives for a purpose. Rather than resist the chaos, rest in the cleansing, and cling to Him.
Reflection Points:
Consider your most recent storm. Describe it. How did God use it to bring you closer to Him?
Is it possible that the storms in your life can be used to teach you how to reach out to those who are experiencing their own personal tempests?
Learn from Paul, how to endure storms. Read 2 Corinthians 11 and 12 and be inspired by his total trust in God.
Power Verses:
Psalm 36: 5-9, “Your unfailing love, O LORD, is as vast as the heavens;
your faithfulness reaches beyond the clouds. Your righteousness is like the mighty mountains, your justice like the ocean depths. You care for people and animals alike…You feed them from the abundance of your own house, letting them drink from your rivers of delight...” (NLT)
Lamentations 3:22-23, “Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” (NIV)
2 Corinthians 12:10, “Since I know it is all for Christ's good, I am quite content with my weaknesses and with insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (NLT)
Philippians 4:4, “Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!” (KJV)
4 WIVES
source: Elizabeth Beck
thank you helpmeet!
Once upon a time there was a rich King who had four wives.
He loved the 4th wife the most and adored her with rich robes and treated
her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared that one day she would leave him for another.
He also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidant and was always kind,
considerate and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he
could confide in her, and she would help him get through the difficult times.
The King's 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love the first wife. Although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her!
One day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short. He thought of
his luxurious life and wondered, I now have four wives with me, but when
I die, I'll be all alone."
Thus, he asked the 4th wife , "I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"No way!", replied the 4th wife, and she walked away without another word.
Her answer cut like a sharp knife right into his heart.
The sad King then asked the 3rd wife, "I loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"No!", replied the 3rd wife. "Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to remarry!"
His heart sank and turned cold.
He then asked the 2nd wife, "I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me.
When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!", replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave." Her answer struck him like a bolt of lightning, and the King was devastated.
Then a voice called out: "I'll go with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go."
The King looked up, and there was his first wife. She was very skinny as
she suffered from malnutrition and neglect. Greatly grieved, the King
said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!"
In truth, we all have the 4 wives in our lives:
Our 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good,
it will leave us when we die.
Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth.
When we die, it will all go to others.
Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.
And our 1st wife is our Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world.
However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us where ever we go.
Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of us that will follow us to the throne of God and continue with us throughout Eternity.
Thought for the day:
Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees, you're in the perfect position to pray.
Pass this on to someone you care about - I just did.
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections
thank you helpmeet!
Once upon a time there was a rich King who had four wives.
He loved the 4th wife the most and adored her with rich robes and treated
her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared that one day she would leave him for another.
He also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidant and was always kind,
considerate and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he
could confide in her, and she would help him get through the difficult times.
The King's 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love the first wife. Although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her!
One day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short. He thought of
his luxurious life and wondered, I now have four wives with me, but when
I die, I'll be all alone."
Thus, he asked the 4th wife , "I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"No way!", replied the 4th wife, and she walked away without another word.
Her answer cut like a sharp knife right into his heart.
The sad King then asked the 3rd wife, "I loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"No!", replied the 3rd wife. "Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to remarry!"
His heart sank and turned cold.
He then asked the 2nd wife, "I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me.
When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!", replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave." Her answer struck him like a bolt of lightning, and the King was devastated.
Then a voice called out: "I'll go with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go."
The King looked up, and there was his first wife. She was very skinny as
she suffered from malnutrition and neglect. Greatly grieved, the King
said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!"
In truth, we all have the 4 wives in our lives:
Our 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good,
it will leave us when we die.
Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth.
When we die, it will all go to others.
Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.
And our 1st wife is our Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world.
However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us where ever we go.
Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of us that will follow us to the throne of God and continue with us throughout Eternity.
Thought for the day:
Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees, you're in the perfect position to pray.
Pass this on to someone you care about - I just did.
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections
“And They Were Amazed”
author:
Glynnis Whitwer, Senior Editor – “P31 Woman Magazine,” Proverbs 31 Speaker Team Member source:
Crosswalk
Key Verse:
Matthew 13:54, “Coming to his hometown, he began teaching the people in their synagogue, and they were amazed. ‘Where did this man get this
wisdom and these miraculous powers?’ they asked.” (NIV)
Devotion:
When was the last time something truly amazed you? I’ve been amazed lately at the price of gas, at the size of my clothes, and at a teenager’s driving
as he cuts me off in traffic. Perhaps it’s more appropriate to say I’ve been shocked and disgusted rather than amazed.
True amazement, the kind that’s mixed with surprise and awe, is a rare emotion. First-time parents experience amazement when their baby starts to
crawl. That quickly turns to fear as their precious one crawls toward an electrical outlet, but for a moment they are amazed.
Maybe advances in technology have dulled our capacity for amazement. A television screen the size of a whale barely elicits a “wow.” A thousand
songs in a matchbox-sized container isn’t enough. More! More! We want more!
Maybe a lack of integrity has dimmed amazement at our leaders, or maybe the press has simply revealed weaknesses that were always there. Nature
still has the power to amaze, but lines of tourists and scattered trash can sour our experience. People, places, things. Is there anything left to incite
amazement?
Flash back two thousand years. A humble man teaches to a gathered crowd, and they were amazed. He drives out a demon, and a mute man speaks
and everyone was amazed (Matt. 9:33). He heals the crippled, a lame man walks and a blind man sees (Matt.15:31). He tells the people to pay their
taxes, and they are amazed (Matt. 22:21). He calms the storm and completely amazes His friends (Mark 6:51). Basically, Jesus was amazing.
Today, Jesus is still amazing, and miracles are still being done in His Name. Jesus Himself made it clear that He hoped His disciples would continue
what He started. In John 14:12Jesus said, “I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things
than these, because I am going to the Father.”
Scripture tells us in light of the amazing things Jesus said and did, people praised God (Luke 5:25-26). Yet, in spite of the potential for people to be
drawn to God by the amazing things they hear and see today, we allow religion to become routine and we keep Jesus tucked away in a history book.
As believers, we are called to portray to the world a God who is truly amazing. May our mouths speak God’s truth in a gracious and compelling way.
May our lives model the excitement of walking daily with God. And may miracles still be performed in the Name of Jesus.
Let’s amaze the world by telling them about a God who still has the power to amaze!
My Prayer for Today:
Precious Lord, You are amazing in all Your ways. You are clothed in majesty and worthy of all our praise. Thank you for the record of Jesus’ life and for
His promise that we can do greater things. Help my unbelief. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Application Steps:
Think of one amazing thing God has done in your life. Commit to telling at least one person about it.
Reflection Points:
Read Matthew 13:53-58. Jesus is in His hometown. Although the people are amazed, they also experience another reaction. What is it?
Why do those who know us best have a hard time accepting truth from us?
What hindered Jesus’ performance of miracles?
Why do we sometimes miss how amazing God really is?
How can you change your life so that others see more of the amazing things of God through you?
Power Verses:
Habakkuk 1:5, “Look at the nations and watch and be utterly amazed. For I am going to do something in your days that you would not believe, even if
you were told.” (NIV)
Hebrews 12:28-29, “Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with
reverence and awe, for our ‘God is a consuming fire.’" (NIV)
Mark 6:50-51, “Immediately he spoke to them and said, "Take courage! It is I. Don't be afraid." Then he climbed into the boat with them, and the wind
died down. They were completely amazed …” (NIV)
Luke 4:22, “Allspoke well of him and were amazed at the gracious words that came from his lips.”Isn't this Joseph's son?" they asked.” (NIV)
Luke 5:25-26, “Immediately he stood up in front of them, took what he had been lying on and went home praising God. Everyone was amazed and gave
praise to God. They were filled with awe and said, ‘We have seen remarkable things today.’" (NIV)
Glynnis Whitwer, Senior Editor – “P31 Woman Magazine,” Proverbs 31 Speaker Team Member source:
Crosswalk
Key Verse:
Matthew 13:54, “Coming to his hometown, he began teaching the people in their synagogue, and they were amazed. ‘Where did this man get this
wisdom and these miraculous powers?’ they asked.” (NIV)
Devotion:
When was the last time something truly amazed you? I’ve been amazed lately at the price of gas, at the size of my clothes, and at a teenager’s driving
as he cuts me off in traffic. Perhaps it’s more appropriate to say I’ve been shocked and disgusted rather than amazed.
True amazement, the kind that’s mixed with surprise and awe, is a rare emotion. First-time parents experience amazement when their baby starts to
crawl. That quickly turns to fear as their precious one crawls toward an electrical outlet, but for a moment they are amazed.
Maybe advances in technology have dulled our capacity for amazement. A television screen the size of a whale barely elicits a “wow.” A thousand
songs in a matchbox-sized container isn’t enough. More! More! We want more!
Maybe a lack of integrity has dimmed amazement at our leaders, or maybe the press has simply revealed weaknesses that were always there. Nature
still has the power to amaze, but lines of tourists and scattered trash can sour our experience. People, places, things. Is there anything left to incite
amazement?
Flash back two thousand years. A humble man teaches to a gathered crowd, and they were amazed. He drives out a demon, and a mute man speaks
and everyone was amazed (Matt. 9:33). He heals the crippled, a lame man walks and a blind man sees (Matt.15:31). He tells the people to pay their
taxes, and they are amazed (Matt. 22:21). He calms the storm and completely amazes His friends (Mark 6:51). Basically, Jesus was amazing.
Today, Jesus is still amazing, and miracles are still being done in His Name. Jesus Himself made it clear that He hoped His disciples would continue
what He started. In John 14:12Jesus said, “I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things
than these, because I am going to the Father.”
Scripture tells us in light of the amazing things Jesus said and did, people praised God (Luke 5:25-26). Yet, in spite of the potential for people to be
drawn to God by the amazing things they hear and see today, we allow religion to become routine and we keep Jesus tucked away in a history book.
As believers, we are called to portray to the world a God who is truly amazing. May our mouths speak God’s truth in a gracious and compelling way.
May our lives model the excitement of walking daily with God. And may miracles still be performed in the Name of Jesus.
Let’s amaze the world by telling them about a God who still has the power to amaze!
My Prayer for Today:
Precious Lord, You are amazing in all Your ways. You are clothed in majesty and worthy of all our praise. Thank you for the record of Jesus’ life and for
His promise that we can do greater things. Help my unbelief. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Application Steps:
Think of one amazing thing God has done in your life. Commit to telling at least one person about it.
Reflection Points:
Read Matthew 13:53-58. Jesus is in His hometown. Although the people are amazed, they also experience another reaction. What is it?
Why do those who know us best have a hard time accepting truth from us?
What hindered Jesus’ performance of miracles?
Why do we sometimes miss how amazing God really is?
How can you change your life so that others see more of the amazing things of God through you?
Power Verses:
Habakkuk 1:5, “Look at the nations and watch and be utterly amazed. For I am going to do something in your days that you would not believe, even if
you were told.” (NIV)
Hebrews 12:28-29, “Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with
reverence and awe, for our ‘God is a consuming fire.’" (NIV)
Mark 6:50-51, “Immediately he spoke to them and said, "Take courage! It is I. Don't be afraid." Then he climbed into the boat with them, and the wind
died down. They were completely amazed …” (NIV)
Luke 4:22, “Allspoke well of him and were amazed at the gracious words that came from his lips.”Isn't this Joseph's son?" they asked.” (NIV)
Luke 5:25-26, “Immediately he stood up in front of them, took what he had been lying on and went home praising God. Everyone was amazed and gave
praise to God. They were filled with awe and said, ‘We have seen remarkable things today.’" (NIV)
The Power of Choice
source: Thrive! Now
THRiVE! Now article authored by Valencia Harvey
It seems that there is an expected time frame in which God expects us
to bear fruit. Of all of God's magnificent creation, only humans have
the power of choice... the power of decision... the power of free
will. God has placed gifts and talents on the inside of us, all
vehicles that are designed to bring increase and success. If after
three or four years you fail to see significant fruit in a particular
endeavor, isn't it time to re-evaluate?
It's hard for us as women to abandon something into which we have
lovingly invested ourselves. Many times we stay in relationships and
careers that are producing no fruit because we keep telling ourselves,
"Wait. Next year it will be better."
But shouldn't all that time and nurture go toward something that will
produce great fruit and blessing?
I think we have to get over the fear of failure and chock up our
experience as a valuable learning opportunity. We have to be willing
to set up checkpoints along the way for assessment and re-evaluation.
I heard a minister once say in reference to discovering the destiny
God has for you life to "follow favor and follow the path of favor."
In other words, you may be going down a road where there is great
favor, and then after a period of time there is resistance. It almost
feels as if you are dragging your feet through mud. Your passion and
energy are gone and you practically dread doing what you once couldn't
get enough of. This is a checkpoint. It is possible that your path has
changed, that your favor has shifted in another direction. Go with the
new direction.
Always remember that God works with your passions not against them. He
uses the noble desires that He has placed in your heart to fuel you as
you go along your way. You know, during my season of "wheel spinning"
I noticed that the favor I once enjoyed had begun to ebb. What were
once open doors where now foreboding walls daring me to oppose them.
And my passion was gone. As I contemplated on that reoccurring dream
and sought for understanding, I discovered that the vehicle was
symbolic of my life's work. And in my current environment that work
had come to a screeching halt. My path of favor was changing. Would I
be courageous and make the shift or would I continue to feverishly
tread water?
I finally did the unthinkable. I left the nest I thought was so
familiar and comfortable and opted to launch out into the deep. What
about you? Is God gently trying to redirect your focus to something
much more fulfilling? What projects and assignments have run their
course, and what new adventure is the Lord calling you to explore?
Remember words of the renowned poet, Robert Frost, "Two roads diverged
in a wood, and I - I took the one less traveled by, and that has made
all the difference."
THRiVE! Now article authored by Valencia Harvey
It seems that there is an expected time frame in which God expects us
to bear fruit. Of all of God's magnificent creation, only humans have
the power of choice... the power of decision... the power of free
will. God has placed gifts and talents on the inside of us, all
vehicles that are designed to bring increase and success. If after
three or four years you fail to see significant fruit in a particular
endeavor, isn't it time to re-evaluate?
It's hard for us as women to abandon something into which we have
lovingly invested ourselves. Many times we stay in relationships and
careers that are producing no fruit because we keep telling ourselves,
"Wait. Next year it will be better."
But shouldn't all that time and nurture go toward something that will
produce great fruit and blessing?
I think we have to get over the fear of failure and chock up our
experience as a valuable learning opportunity. We have to be willing
to set up checkpoints along the way for assessment and re-evaluation.
I heard a minister once say in reference to discovering the destiny
God has for you life to "follow favor and follow the path of favor."
In other words, you may be going down a road where there is great
favor, and then after a period of time there is resistance. It almost
feels as if you are dragging your feet through mud. Your passion and
energy are gone and you practically dread doing what you once couldn't
get enough of. This is a checkpoint. It is possible that your path has
changed, that your favor has shifted in another direction. Go with the
new direction.
Always remember that God works with your passions not against them. He
uses the noble desires that He has placed in your heart to fuel you as
you go along your way. You know, during my season of "wheel spinning"
I noticed that the favor I once enjoyed had begun to ebb. What were
once open doors where now foreboding walls daring me to oppose them.
And my passion was gone. As I contemplated on that reoccurring dream
and sought for understanding, I discovered that the vehicle was
symbolic of my life's work. And in my current environment that work
had come to a screeching halt. My path of favor was changing. Would I
be courageous and make the shift or would I continue to feverishly
tread water?
I finally did the unthinkable. I left the nest I thought was so
familiar and comfortable and opted to launch out into the deep. What
about you? Is God gently trying to redirect your focus to something
much more fulfilling? What projects and assignments have run their
course, and what new adventure is the Lord calling you to explore?
Remember words of the renowned poet, Robert Frost, "Two roads diverged
in a wood, and I - I took the one less traveled by, and that has made
all the difference."
Two Eritrean Christians Tortured to Death
Two Eritrean Christians Tortured to Death
Special to Compass Direct News
source: Christianity Today
Arrested at worship service with 10 others; Christian singer sent back to prison.
LOS ANGELES - Eritrean security police tortured two Christians to death yesterday, two days after arresting them for holding a religious service in a private home south of Asmara.
The deaths came just after officials detained a U.S. citizen and re-imprisoned a popular Christian singer who was hospitalized as a result of spending 29 months in a metal shipping container.
Immanuel Andegergesh, 23, and Kibrom Firemichel, 30, died from torture wounds and severe dehydration in a military camp outside the town of Adi-Quala, eyewitnesses told Compass.
The military buried the two unmarried men yesterday in the southern Eritrean town near the Ethiopian border, where they had been performing their military service.
Andegergesh and Firemichel were arrested on Sunday (October 15), along with 10 other Christians, while attending a worship service in the home of Teklezgi Asgerdom.
The three women and seven men, all members of the evangelical Rema Church, were kept in military confinement, along with Andegergesh and Firemichel, and subjected to “furious mistreatment,” one source said.
The fate of the 10 other Christians remains unknown.
Singer Returned to DetentionEarlier this month, Eritrean authorities returned popular Christian singer Helen Berhane to military detention after she spent three days in Asmara’s Halibet Hospital for medical treatment.
Berhane’s leg was seriously damaged as a result of beatings she received while imprisoned in a metal shipping container since her arrest in May 2004.
Sources told Compass that Berhane, a member of the Kidane Mehrete Fellowship (previously misreported as the Rema Church), has been transferred back to Mai-Serwa Military Camp and now is able to walk with the help of a cane.
The government has continued its campaign against Christian workers, jailing a U.S. citizen earlier this month.
Evangelical Aregahaje Woldeselasie and his assistant, a married man identified only as Mushie, have been held in Asmara’s Police Station 5 since their arrest on October 4.
An Eritrean-born U.S. citizen in his early 60s, Woldeselasie has been working with Nehemiah Ministry International in Eritrea since 1991, providing leadership training to new congregations.
At the time of his arrest, Woldeselasie’s wife and two children were in the United States.
Schools TargetedIn its apparent campaign to bring all religious groups under its control, the government of Eritrea has recently focused its efforts on schools run by religious groups.
On October 10, the Ministry of Education ordered the Finnish Mission School to turn over its administration and assets to the government.
Founded by the Finnish Mission 15 years ago, “it was one of the private schools in Eritrea where students were taught the fear of the Lord,” a Christian source commented.
Sources have told Compass that the main reason the government took control of the school was that they did not like its Christian character.
The Ministry of Education has also demanded that the Alumni Arabic School, a private Muslim institution, be made into a public institution. Formerly known as the Jalia Arabic School, Alumni taught Arabic and Quran courses to the children of Eritrea’s Muslim community.
In addition, the government has pressured the Evangelical [Lutheran] Church of Eritrea (ECE) to close down Asmara’s Anglican elementary school.
Eritrea had placed the Anglican congregation under the government-registered ECE control after ordering the city’s Anglican priest, the Rev. Nelson Fernandez, out of the country in October 2005.
Since then, rumors have circulated that the government would close down the elementary school, which was mainly attended by the children of foreign workers associated with the church.
Along with the decision to close the school, Eritrea’s Department of Religious Affairs has also ordered an elderly church warden to immediately vacate her home, located on church premises.
Since May 2002, the Eritrean government has banned all independent religious groups not under the umbrella of the Orthodox, Catholic, Lutheran or Muslim faiths. All independent Protestant churches have been denied legal registration and outlawed.
Everyone caught worshipping outside these government-sanctioned institutions – even in small handfuls in private homes – is arrested, tortured or subjected to severe pressures to deny their religious beliefs.
Even leaders of the four historically recognized groups are experiencing harsh government restrictions. Ignoring church canons, local lay authorities removed the ordained patriarch of the Eritrean Orthodox Church from his ecclesiastical position in August 2005. Patriarch Abune Antonios has been held under house arrest ever since.
Recently confirmed statistics indicate that at least 1,918 Eritrean citizens are jailed solely for their religious beliefs, without any access to judicial process.
For the third year in a row, the U.S. State Department named Eritrea a “Country of Particular Concern” in its annual religious freedom report last month, designating it one of the worst violators of religious freedom in the world.
Copyright 2006 Compass Direct News
Special to Compass Direct News
source: Christianity Today
Arrested at worship service with 10 others; Christian singer sent back to prison.
LOS ANGELES - Eritrean security police tortured two Christians to death yesterday, two days after arresting them for holding a religious service in a private home south of Asmara.
The deaths came just after officials detained a U.S. citizen and re-imprisoned a popular Christian singer who was hospitalized as a result of spending 29 months in a metal shipping container.
Immanuel Andegergesh, 23, and Kibrom Firemichel, 30, died from torture wounds and severe dehydration in a military camp outside the town of Adi-Quala, eyewitnesses told Compass.
The military buried the two unmarried men yesterday in the southern Eritrean town near the Ethiopian border, where they had been performing their military service.
Andegergesh and Firemichel were arrested on Sunday (October 15), along with 10 other Christians, while attending a worship service in the home of Teklezgi Asgerdom.
The three women and seven men, all members of the evangelical Rema Church, were kept in military confinement, along with Andegergesh and Firemichel, and subjected to “furious mistreatment,” one source said.
The fate of the 10 other Christians remains unknown.
Singer Returned to DetentionEarlier this month, Eritrean authorities returned popular Christian singer Helen Berhane to military detention after she spent three days in Asmara’s Halibet Hospital for medical treatment.
Berhane’s leg was seriously damaged as a result of beatings she received while imprisoned in a metal shipping container since her arrest in May 2004.
Sources told Compass that Berhane, a member of the Kidane Mehrete Fellowship (previously misreported as the Rema Church), has been transferred back to Mai-Serwa Military Camp and now is able to walk with the help of a cane.
The government has continued its campaign against Christian workers, jailing a U.S. citizen earlier this month.
Evangelical Aregahaje Woldeselasie and his assistant, a married man identified only as Mushie, have been held in Asmara’s Police Station 5 since their arrest on October 4.
An Eritrean-born U.S. citizen in his early 60s, Woldeselasie has been working with Nehemiah Ministry International in Eritrea since 1991, providing leadership training to new congregations.
At the time of his arrest, Woldeselasie’s wife and two children were in the United States.
Schools TargetedIn its apparent campaign to bring all religious groups under its control, the government of Eritrea has recently focused its efforts on schools run by religious groups.
On October 10, the Ministry of Education ordered the Finnish Mission School to turn over its administration and assets to the government.
Founded by the Finnish Mission 15 years ago, “it was one of the private schools in Eritrea where students were taught the fear of the Lord,” a Christian source commented.
Sources have told Compass that the main reason the government took control of the school was that they did not like its Christian character.
The Ministry of Education has also demanded that the Alumni Arabic School, a private Muslim institution, be made into a public institution. Formerly known as the Jalia Arabic School, Alumni taught Arabic and Quran courses to the children of Eritrea’s Muslim community.
In addition, the government has pressured the Evangelical [Lutheran] Church of Eritrea (ECE) to close down Asmara’s Anglican elementary school.
Eritrea had placed the Anglican congregation under the government-registered ECE control after ordering the city’s Anglican priest, the Rev. Nelson Fernandez, out of the country in October 2005.
Since then, rumors have circulated that the government would close down the elementary school, which was mainly attended by the children of foreign workers associated with the church.
Along with the decision to close the school, Eritrea’s Department of Religious Affairs has also ordered an elderly church warden to immediately vacate her home, located on church premises.
Since May 2002, the Eritrean government has banned all independent religious groups not under the umbrella of the Orthodox, Catholic, Lutheran or Muslim faiths. All independent Protestant churches have been denied legal registration and outlawed.
Everyone caught worshipping outside these government-sanctioned institutions – even in small handfuls in private homes – is arrested, tortured or subjected to severe pressures to deny their religious beliefs.
Even leaders of the four historically recognized groups are experiencing harsh government restrictions. Ignoring church canons, local lay authorities removed the ordained patriarch of the Eritrean Orthodox Church from his ecclesiastical position in August 2005. Patriarch Abune Antonios has been held under house arrest ever since.
Recently confirmed statistics indicate that at least 1,918 Eritrean citizens are jailed solely for their religious beliefs, without any access to judicial process.
For the third year in a row, the U.S. State Department named Eritrea a “Country of Particular Concern” in its annual religious freedom report last month, designating it one of the worst violators of religious freedom in the world.
Copyright 2006 Compass Direct News
Wednesday, October 04, 2006
Devotional: A Powerhouse of Protection
Devotional
source: EWC
A Powerhouse of Protection
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tonguethat shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This isthe heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness isof me, saith the Lord."(Isaiah 54:17)
No weapon formed against you shall prosper. Isn't that great news!Isn't it good to know that no sickness, no circumstance, no problemthat rises against you can successfully bring you down?
Some years ago, one of our friends was facing a lawsuit. He and Iprayed together according to this scripture and agreed it was thefinal word in the situation, not the allegations against him. We stoodin faith, believing that lawsuit had to fail.
Sure enough, when my friend went to court, they just couldn't beathim. He didn't win that case because of his keen and witty lawyers. Hewon because he was innocent and because he had believed that powerfulpromise of God.
Follow his example. When the devil attacks you in some area of yourlife, don't sit around crying and begging God to save you. Open upyour Bible to Isaiah 54:17 instead. Remind yourself of what God haspromised you. Use that promise to strengthen you against sin and everyother evil work the devil would like to use to keep you bound.
Then establish yourself on it through prayer. Say, "Lord, I refuse tobe afraid of this weapon the devil has brought against me because Iknow that according to Your Word, it cannot prosper. I trust You toprotect me, and I thank You for it now. In Jesus' Name. Amen.
"Don't let the powerhouse of God's protection go to waste. Put it towork in your life. It is your rightful heritage as a servant of theLord.
Scripture Study: Isaiah 54:10-17
Kenneth Copeland Ministries Fort Worth, TX 76192-0001
source: EWC
A Powerhouse of Protection
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tonguethat shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This isthe heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness isof me, saith the Lord."(Isaiah 54:17)
No weapon formed against you shall prosper. Isn't that great news!Isn't it good to know that no sickness, no circumstance, no problemthat rises against you can successfully bring you down?
Some years ago, one of our friends was facing a lawsuit. He and Iprayed together according to this scripture and agreed it was thefinal word in the situation, not the allegations against him. We stoodin faith, believing that lawsuit had to fail.
Sure enough, when my friend went to court, they just couldn't beathim. He didn't win that case because of his keen and witty lawyers. Hewon because he was innocent and because he had believed that powerfulpromise of God.
Follow his example. When the devil attacks you in some area of yourlife, don't sit around crying and begging God to save you. Open upyour Bible to Isaiah 54:17 instead. Remind yourself of what God haspromised you. Use that promise to strengthen you against sin and everyother evil work the devil would like to use to keep you bound.
Then establish yourself on it through prayer. Say, "Lord, I refuse tobe afraid of this weapon the devil has brought against me because Iknow that according to Your Word, it cannot prosper. I trust You toprotect me, and I thank You for it now. In Jesus' Name. Amen.
"Don't let the powerhouse of God's protection go to waste. Put it towork in your life. It is your rightful heritage as a servant of theLord.
Scripture Study: Isaiah 54:10-17
Kenneth Copeland Ministries Fort Worth, TX 76192-0001
Devotional: Working for the Lord
author: Charles Stanley
source: crosswalk
Charles testimony:
When I was a boy, I used to get up at 5 AM to deliver newspapers. It
was always pitch black outside. Sometimes it would be very cold,
raining, or even snowing heavily. I remember lying in my comfortable
bed and telling God how much I dreaded going outside. I didn't want to
get wet. I didn't want to be cold. Worse yet, I was afraid of the
dark!
Yet God worked in my heart to help me see the situation differently. I
began to say, ?I'm not delivering these newspapers for my customers.
I'm doing it for Jesus. He's going to receive this paper.?
Suddenly my attitude turned around. I would get started no matter what
the time or weather! In my own childish way, I had stumbled on the
secret of success in the Christian life, the key to fruitful service:
Whatever you are doing, do it as if you are doing it for the Lord.
===
In the sixth chapter of Ephesians, Paul tells us ?With good will
render service, as to the Lord, and not to men...? In Colossians 3:23,
he says it again: ?Whatever you do, do your work heartily as for the
Lord rather than for men...?
In other words, it doesn't matter if you are leading a corporation or
mopping its floors-you are called to serve God in and through
everything you do. Once you adopt this attitude, once you learn to
focus on Whom you are serving instead of what you are doing, amazing
changes will happen:
The quality of your work will improve.
After all, now you are not working for an earthly boss, but for your
Father in heaven.
You will be protected from discouragement.
It does not matter whether or not you've been complimented or thanked
for your work-because you already know how much He approves of you and
loves you.
You will grow in self-esteem.
We all have a need to feel competent, important and worthy. God always
rewards us for our service with a sense of satisfaction and belonging
we will not find any other way.
You will not be afraid to fail. In fact, when we serve God we cannot
fail because true service is not something we do for God, but rather
something God does through us.
In First Thessalonians 5:24, Paul says, Faithful is He who calls you,
and He also will bring it to pass. God assumes full responsibility for
enabling us to carry out the work He's called us to do, whatever that
may be!
source: crosswalk
Charles testimony:
When I was a boy, I used to get up at 5 AM to deliver newspapers. It
was always pitch black outside. Sometimes it would be very cold,
raining, or even snowing heavily. I remember lying in my comfortable
bed and telling God how much I dreaded going outside. I didn't want to
get wet. I didn't want to be cold. Worse yet, I was afraid of the
dark!
Yet God worked in my heart to help me see the situation differently. I
began to say, ?I'm not delivering these newspapers for my customers.
I'm doing it for Jesus. He's going to receive this paper.?
Suddenly my attitude turned around. I would get started no matter what
the time or weather! In my own childish way, I had stumbled on the
secret of success in the Christian life, the key to fruitful service:
Whatever you are doing, do it as if you are doing it for the Lord.
===
In the sixth chapter of Ephesians, Paul tells us ?With good will
render service, as to the Lord, and not to men...? In Colossians 3:23,
he says it again: ?Whatever you do, do your work heartily as for the
Lord rather than for men...?
In other words, it doesn't matter if you are leading a corporation or
mopping its floors-you are called to serve God in and through
everything you do. Once you adopt this attitude, once you learn to
focus on Whom you are serving instead of what you are doing, amazing
changes will happen:
The quality of your work will improve.
After all, now you are not working for an earthly boss, but for your
Father in heaven.
You will be protected from discouragement.
It does not matter whether or not you've been complimented or thanked
for your work-because you already know how much He approves of you and
loves you.
You will grow in self-esteem.
We all have a need to feel competent, important and worthy. God always
rewards us for our service with a sense of satisfaction and belonging
we will not find any other way.
You will not be afraid to fail. In fact, when we serve God we cannot
fail because true service is not something we do for God, but rather
something God does through us.
In First Thessalonians 5:24, Paul says, Faithful is He who calls you,
and He also will bring it to pass. God assumes full responsibility for
enabling us to carry out the work He's called us to do, whatever that
may be!
Story / Illustration: Life is the Coffee
author: author unknown
source: posted by helpmeet Dawn Judd
Thanks Dawn!
A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. The conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.
Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and
returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups -
porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain-looking, some expensive,
and some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
After all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is but normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress."
"Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases, it's just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups.and then began eyeing each other's cups."
"Now consider this: Life is the coffee, and the jobs, houses, cars,
things, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain life, and the type of cup we have does not define nor change the quality of life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us."
God brews the coffee, not the cups . . . enjoy your coffee.
"Being happy :) doesn't mean everything's perfect, It means you've
decided to see beyond the imperfections"
Live in peace and peace will live in you.
source: posted by helpmeet Dawn Judd
Thanks Dawn!
A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. The conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.
Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and
returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups -
porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain-looking, some expensive,
and some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
After all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is but normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress."
"Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases, it's just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups.and then began eyeing each other's cups."
"Now consider this: Life is the coffee, and the jobs, houses, cars,
things, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain life, and the type of cup we have does not define nor change the quality of life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us."
God brews the coffee, not the cups . . . enjoy your coffee.
"Being happy :) doesn't mean everything's perfect, It means you've
decided to see beyond the imperfections"
Live in peace and peace will live in you.
Start Your Homeschool Year Supported
Start Your Homeschool Year Supported
Cindy Short and Sue Welch
source: LifeWay
As you start this school year, you might feel like you can't do it
alone -- and you're probably right. But the good news is that you
don't have to go it alone.
We remind you here that there is more than enough support available
to you to successfully see you through the year.
"The joy of the Lord will be your strength." Relax and have a good
time learning with your children this year!
Don't try to tough it out all alone. Line up your support team now
for smoother sailing; don't wait until it's too late.
Look to the Lord as Your First and Best Support
Others may let you down or fail to fulfill your needs, but not God.
Go to Him first for the support you need.
"My soul, wait thou only upon God;
for my expectation is from Him.
He only is my rock and my salvation:
He is my defense;
I shall not be moved.
In God is my salvation and my glory:
the rock of my strength,
and my refuge, is in God.
Trust in him at all times; ye people,
pour out your heart before him:
God is a refuge for us."
(Psalms 62:5-8)
1. The Lord Is Always There 24/7.
You don't have to wait for next month's support group meeting or
until someone else is available to help you. You can call on the
Lord at any time, day or night. His invitations and promises to you
assure that you will never become a burden to Him.
"Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden,
and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28)
"I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee." (Hebrews 13:5)
2. The Lord Is All-Knowing and All-Wise.
The Lord knows exactly what you are going through and how you feel.
He knows precisely what your family needs, both now and in the
future. He is willing to share this wisdom with you; all you have
to do is ask.
"If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God,
that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not;
and it shall be given him.
But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering." (James 1:5-6a)
"For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched
with the feeling of our infirmities;
but was in all points tempted like as we are,
yet without sin.
Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace,
that we may obtain mercy,
and find grace to help in time of need."
(Hebrews 4:15-16)
3. The Lord Is Loving and Kind.
The Lord loves you and your family with unfathomable, pure, and
unfailing love.
"Behold, what manner of love the Father
hath bestowed upon us,
that we should be called the sons of God." (I John 3:1)
"Casting all your care upon him;
for he careth for you." (I Peter 5:7)
He will give you what is best in His time and in His way.
This is where our trust in Him must be implicit.
"But without faith it is impossible to please Him (God)."
(Hebrews 11:6)
"And we know that all things work together for good
to them that love God." (Romans 8:28)
How To Avail Yourself of the Lord's Wonderful Support
Sadly enough, we all too often fail to receive the gracious gifts of
our Lord for various reasons.
• We get into the habit of trying to meet our own needs,
forgetting to turn to the Lord.
• The physical world can seem more real to us than the unseen
spiritual world.
We can correct this habit and misperception and find our Lord's aid
and fellowship in the following ways:
1. Spend time daily in reading, studying, memorizing,
and meditating on God's Word.
Morning, noon, and night is not too much.
• Morning - Have your private time with the Lord.
• Noon - Read, study, or memorize Scripture in your school time or
at the lunch table.
• Evening - Have family Bible reading at the table or before bed
with Dad.
It is in His written revelation to us that we meet the Lord and He
speaks to us.
The law of the Lord is perfect,
Restoring the soul;
The testimony of the Lord is sure,
Making wise the simple.
The precepts of the Lord are right,
Rejoicing the heart
Psalms 19:7-8a
2. Fill your life with good Christian music.
Music is a powerful influence in our lives. Both the words and the
style of the old hymns of the faith carry a message that honors the
Lord and reminds you of Him and His attributes.
Although constant background music can be distracting and lose its
impact, there are many times during the day that listening to, or
singing, Christian songs can turn your thoughts to the Lord.
You might want to lead your children in a chorus or hymn each time
you read from God's Word.
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom;
teaching and admonishing one another
in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs,
singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord."
(Colossians 3:16)
3. Talk to the Lord frequently throughout the day.
It might be hard to visualize the Lord beside you all day long, but
if you engage in conversational prayer with Him throughout the day,
you will be reminded of, and comforted by, His presence.
Be anxious for nothing,
but in everything by prayer and supplication
with thanksgiving
let your requests be made known to God.
Philippians 4:6
Look for Support at Home
Your family comprises a support group for you, your husband, and
your children. Here is how you can give and receive support right
at home.
1. Start with Yourself
Set Realistic Expectations
God does not ask us to do more than we are able. It is up to us to
make sure we don't load ourselves down with extra projects of our
own devising that he did not intend.
• Don't get carried away with extra-curricular activities; you
need to be home to home school!
• If you are overwhelmed already, consider some of our suggestions
for efficient school schedules in our Back-to-Home-School Checklist.
http://www.teachinghome.com/newsletters/newsletter129.cfm
• Cut back and slow down until you can manage your goals. It
is better to do a little well and then add more back in as
you can.
Maintain Your Health
We must also be good stewards of the resources He has given us,
including our own health. We are not free to indulge in excesses,
but must eat, work, and rest in ways that preserve our ability to
accomplish His purposes. We all know the basic rules:
• Eat healthily; drop extra pounds.
• Drink enough water.
• Exercise regularly, but reasonably. A daily walk with your
family promotes family unity as well as physical health.
• Deal with stress and problems God's way, don't let them build up.
• Take time to relax and enjoy your family.
• Get your full amount of sleep every night.
You cannot get enough support from others to make up for a disregard
of the laws of cause and effect that God has ordained.
2. Don't Overlook Your Spouse
Maintaining a loving relationship with your spouse will naturally be
a great support to you. And remember, you are his support system
too.
While your spouse is your closest human support and should be kept
aware of your thoughts and feelings, problems and struggles, he
should not feel that he is solely responsible to "fix" everything.
Let him know that you have other resources, and discuss options
together with the confidence you gain from trusting the Lord.
It might help to obtain a book and show it to your husband to
reassure him of the validity and benefits of home schooling.
Your spouse may need some practical suggestions for ways to support
you.
• Perhaps you only need 15 or 20 minutes at the end of each day to
debrief each other and pray about any situations that have arisen.
• Agree on standards for your children's behavior and a system for
their consistent discipline.
• Plan times to relax together.
3. Look to Your Family
Home schoolers recognize the value of the family unit. Let it
support you. Enlist the help and support of your children.
Grandparents or other relatives may offer support as well.
Your family will need help in knowing how to support you.
• You may need to tell your children, "I really love you and love
teaching you, but I need a little extra help in keeping up with the
chores. A word of encouragement or a hug would sure come in handy
too!"
• Be sure you model support and encouragement in the way you
interact with your family at all times.
• Family members can, and should, be each others' best friends and
supporters. Talk to your children about helping each other in this
way. A focus on the positive can replace problems.
Look for Support from Other People
1. Look to Good Friends
Just one faithful, sympathetic, and praying friend can offer a
tremendous amount of support. This informal "support group" can
meet on the phone whenever the need or opportunity arises or once a
week at a specified time.
Caution: Don't let this good friend take the place of the Lord or
your spouse.
When like-minded home-school families spend time together, they
provide needed support and encouragement for the whole family.
2. Consider Mentoring
Veteran home educators should consider what they have to offer
beginners. New home schoolers can look for veteran home educators
to mentor them. A regular time together or an occasional phone call
can make a big difference!
A local support group may be able to help you find a mentor.
3. Look to a Support Group
Support Groups may consist of only two families, or they may be
large and offer many functions and activities.
Involvement with your local Christian home-school group can provide
encouragement, fellowship, educational opportunities, field trips,
academic training and information, solutions to your problems, and
answers for your questions.
Cautions
• Don't become overwhelmed by trying to participate in all the
activities offered by your support group.
• Look for a group that will support your family's standards.
4. Look to Your Local Church
The fellowship and teaching of your local church provides important
support for your spiritual life.
An ideal home-school support group might also be formed within your
church if fellow members are home schooling. It is an added blessing
to have a pastor who encourages you in your home-school efforts.
"And let us consider one another
to provoke unto love and to good works:
Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together,
as the manner of some is;
but exhorting one another:
and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching."
(Hebrews 10:24-25)
-----------------------------
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Copyright 2006 The Teaching Home
Cindy Short and Sue Welch
source: LifeWay
As you start this school year, you might feel like you can't do it
alone -- and you're probably right. But the good news is that you
don't have to go it alone.
We remind you here that there is more than enough support available
to you to successfully see you through the year.
"The joy of the Lord will be your strength." Relax and have a good
time learning with your children this year!
Don't try to tough it out all alone. Line up your support team now
for smoother sailing; don't wait until it's too late.
Look to the Lord as Your First and Best Support
Others may let you down or fail to fulfill your needs, but not God.
Go to Him first for the support you need.
"My soul, wait thou only upon God;
for my expectation is from Him.
He only is my rock and my salvation:
He is my defense;
I shall not be moved.
In God is my salvation and my glory:
the rock of my strength,
and my refuge, is in God.
Trust in him at all times; ye people,
pour out your heart before him:
God is a refuge for us."
(Psalms 62:5-8)
1. The Lord Is Always There 24/7.
You don't have to wait for next month's support group meeting or
until someone else is available to help you. You can call on the
Lord at any time, day or night. His invitations and promises to you
assure that you will never become a burden to Him.
"Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden,
and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28)
"I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee." (Hebrews 13:5)
2. The Lord Is All-Knowing and All-Wise.
The Lord knows exactly what you are going through and how you feel.
He knows precisely what your family needs, both now and in the
future. He is willing to share this wisdom with you; all you have
to do is ask.
"If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God,
that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not;
and it shall be given him.
But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering." (James 1:5-6a)
"For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched
with the feeling of our infirmities;
but was in all points tempted like as we are,
yet without sin.
Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace,
that we may obtain mercy,
and find grace to help in time of need."
(Hebrews 4:15-16)
3. The Lord Is Loving and Kind.
The Lord loves you and your family with unfathomable, pure, and
unfailing love.
"Behold, what manner of love the Father
hath bestowed upon us,
that we should be called the sons of God." (I John 3:1)
"Casting all your care upon him;
for he careth for you." (I Peter 5:7)
He will give you what is best in His time and in His way.
This is where our trust in Him must be implicit.
"But without faith it is impossible to please Him (God)."
(Hebrews 11:6)
"And we know that all things work together for good
to them that love God." (Romans 8:28)
How To Avail Yourself of the Lord's Wonderful Support
Sadly enough, we all too often fail to receive the gracious gifts of
our Lord for various reasons.
• We get into the habit of trying to meet our own needs,
forgetting to turn to the Lord.
• The physical world can seem more real to us than the unseen
spiritual world.
We can correct this habit and misperception and find our Lord's aid
and fellowship in the following ways:
1. Spend time daily in reading, studying, memorizing,
and meditating on God's Word.
Morning, noon, and night is not too much.
• Morning - Have your private time with the Lord.
• Noon - Read, study, or memorize Scripture in your school time or
at the lunch table.
• Evening - Have family Bible reading at the table or before bed
with Dad.
It is in His written revelation to us that we meet the Lord and He
speaks to us.
The law of the Lord is perfect,
Restoring the soul;
The testimony of the Lord is sure,
Making wise the simple.
The precepts of the Lord are right,
Rejoicing the heart
Psalms 19:7-8a
2. Fill your life with good Christian music.
Music is a powerful influence in our lives. Both the words and the
style of the old hymns of the faith carry a message that honors the
Lord and reminds you of Him and His attributes.
Although constant background music can be distracting and lose its
impact, there are many times during the day that listening to, or
singing, Christian songs can turn your thoughts to the Lord.
You might want to lead your children in a chorus or hymn each time
you read from God's Word.
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom;
teaching and admonishing one another
in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs,
singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord."
(Colossians 3:16)
3. Talk to the Lord frequently throughout the day.
It might be hard to visualize the Lord beside you all day long, but
if you engage in conversational prayer with Him throughout the day,
you will be reminded of, and comforted by, His presence.
Be anxious for nothing,
but in everything by prayer and supplication
with thanksgiving
let your requests be made known to God.
Philippians 4:6
Look for Support at Home
Your family comprises a support group for you, your husband, and
your children. Here is how you can give and receive support right
at home.
1. Start with Yourself
Set Realistic Expectations
God does not ask us to do more than we are able. It is up to us to
make sure we don't load ourselves down with extra projects of our
own devising that he did not intend.
• Don't get carried away with extra-curricular activities; you
need to be home to home school!
• If you are overwhelmed already, consider some of our suggestions
for efficient school schedules in our Back-to-Home-School Checklist.
http://www.teachinghome.com/newsletters/newsletter129.cfm
• Cut back and slow down until you can manage your goals. It
is better to do a little well and then add more back in as
you can.
Maintain Your Health
We must also be good stewards of the resources He has given us,
including our own health. We are not free to indulge in excesses,
but must eat, work, and rest in ways that preserve our ability to
accomplish His purposes. We all know the basic rules:
• Eat healthily; drop extra pounds.
• Drink enough water.
• Exercise regularly, but reasonably. A daily walk with your
family promotes family unity as well as physical health.
• Deal with stress and problems God's way, don't let them build up.
• Take time to relax and enjoy your family.
• Get your full amount of sleep every night.
You cannot get enough support from others to make up for a disregard
of the laws of cause and effect that God has ordained.
2. Don't Overlook Your Spouse
Maintaining a loving relationship with your spouse will naturally be
a great support to you. And remember, you are his support system
too.
While your spouse is your closest human support and should be kept
aware of your thoughts and feelings, problems and struggles, he
should not feel that he is solely responsible to "fix" everything.
Let him know that you have other resources, and discuss options
together with the confidence you gain from trusting the Lord.
It might help to obtain a book and show it to your husband to
reassure him of the validity and benefits of home schooling.
Your spouse may need some practical suggestions for ways to support
you.
• Perhaps you only need 15 or 20 minutes at the end of each day to
debrief each other and pray about any situations that have arisen.
• Agree on standards for your children's behavior and a system for
their consistent discipline.
• Plan times to relax together.
3. Look to Your Family
Home schoolers recognize the value of the family unit. Let it
support you. Enlist the help and support of your children.
Grandparents or other relatives may offer support as well.
Your family will need help in knowing how to support you.
• You may need to tell your children, "I really love you and love
teaching you, but I need a little extra help in keeping up with the
chores. A word of encouragement or a hug would sure come in handy
too!"
• Be sure you model support and encouragement in the way you
interact with your family at all times.
• Family members can, and should, be each others' best friends and
supporters. Talk to your children about helping each other in this
way. A focus on the positive can replace problems.
Look for Support from Other People
1. Look to Good Friends
Just one faithful, sympathetic, and praying friend can offer a
tremendous amount of support. This informal "support group" can
meet on the phone whenever the need or opportunity arises or once a
week at a specified time.
Caution: Don't let this good friend take the place of the Lord or
your spouse.
When like-minded home-school families spend time together, they
provide needed support and encouragement for the whole family.
2. Consider Mentoring
Veteran home educators should consider what they have to offer
beginners. New home schoolers can look for veteran home educators
to mentor them. A regular time together or an occasional phone call
can make a big difference!
A local support group may be able to help you find a mentor.
3. Look to a Support Group
Support Groups may consist of only two families, or they may be
large and offer many functions and activities.
Involvement with your local Christian home-school group can provide
encouragement, fellowship, educational opportunities, field trips,
academic training and information, solutions to your problems, and
answers for your questions.
Cautions
• Don't become overwhelmed by trying to participate in all the
activities offered by your support group.
• Look for a group that will support your family's standards.
4. Look to Your Local Church
The fellowship and teaching of your local church provides important
support for your spiritual life.
An ideal home-school support group might also be formed within your
church if fellow members are home schooling. It is an added blessing
to have a pastor who encourages you in your home-school efforts.
"And let us consider one another
to provoke unto love and to good works:
Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together,
as the manner of some is;
but exhorting one another:
and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching."
(Hebrews 10:24-25)
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Is Your Love for Your Spouse Conditional?
for personal/ministry resource
by Crosswalk
Is Your Love for Your Spouse Conditional?
Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg
America's Family Coaches
Have you ever found yourself irritated with your spouse – not liking
him or her very much – even though you know you love your spouse? Most
of us have had those days! It's perfectly normal. No two people can
live together for any length of time without once in awhile rubbing
each other the wrong way.
What's important is how you handle these kinds of times. If you let
those feelings of hurt or disappointment take over – your marriage
will suffer. You will create a rift in your relationship. So you have
to make a choice. You have to decide to love. You may not feel loving,
but if you decide to love, the feelings will follow.
You have to learn to demonstrate unconditional love to your spouse.
Unconditional love is necessary for a strong marriage. Are you
practicing unconditional love in your marriage? Here are some
questions to consider:
• Have you accepted your spouse's failures or weaknesses?
• Do you support your spouse, or do you see his or her weaknesses as
projects to fix?
• Are you afraid to be honest because your spouse might not accept you?
There is a huge difference between unconditional love and conditional
love. Conditional love blames a person, expects things in return, and
asks for more. Unconditional love accepts the person, expects nothing
in return and sacrifices.
Conditional love says:
• "I will love you only if…"
• "I don't know if I can handle the tough times. If things get too bad
I'm outta here."
• "I might not be able to forgive you if you tell me…"
Unconditional love says:
• "I will love you even if…"
• "I will stay with you no matter what. I will always love you, even
in the tough times."
• "I know I'll still love you if you tell me…"
Your spouse isn't perfect and you are the one person who sees all his
or her faults and fears. What do you do with what you know about your
spouse?
• Do you tease your spouse with hurtful words?
• Worse, do you tease your spouse with hurtful words in front of others?
• Do you put your spouse down?
• Do you withhold your love until your spouse corrects certain faults?
If you answered "yes" to a majority of these questions, you are loving
conditionally and creating a huge fault line that can at any moment
open up and become a large chasm between you. Conditional love creates
a marriage in which each spouse is more concerned with getting his or
her own way, instead of showing their spouse grace and love.
Your response and connection to your spouse are crucial to the health
of your marriage and family. Your expression of unconditional love and
acceptance is the force that will hold you together in the midst of
the testing times in your marriage. Your standing with each other in
the painful times as well as the good times is one of the primary
elements of a great marriage.
If you love each other conditionally, you'll end up living like two
immature children – each trying to get your own way and resenting the
other person when you don't. You may still be married, but you'll miss
out on the joy of a great marriage. Also, husbands and wives who don't
get unconditional love in their marriage may look for it somewhere
else. And while they're looking for that unconditional love – they're
pulling away from their spouse.
Learning unconditional love is worth it, but it's not easy. Giving
your spouse the security of your unwavering love requires grace,
patience, affirmation of the good things, encouragement, respect and
time. Even when you don't feel like showing love, do it anyway. You
need it; your spouse needs it; your marriage needs it.
Here are some tips on how to keep your dream marriage alive.
• Talk through the issues. Communicate freely with each other and keep
no inappropriate secrets.
• Love each other deeply, without strings. Forgive your spouse when
you are wronged and seek forgiveness when you offend.
• Begin each day by asking, "What can I do for you?" Eagerly seek to
discover and meet each other's needs.
• Hang tough. Pray without ceasing. Instead of caving in to difficult
circumstances, face and conquer them.
• Focus on Christ, and love your spouse. Consciously guard yourselves
against threats and temptations that could pull your marriage apart.
• Pray together daily. Stay close. Work at maintaining emotional,
physical and spiritual closeness.
• Keep the chemistry with your spouse alive. Be committed to keeping
your relationship fresh.
Keeping your marriage strong, vibrant and fresh isn't always easy. But
if you put in the time and effort, you'll discover how truly amazing
your marriage can be.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Portions of this article were adapted from "The Great Marriage Q&A
Book," Copyright 2006 by Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg, all rights
reserved. Published by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.,www.tyndale.com.
To order this resource or to find our more about Dr. Gary and Barb –
Your Marriage Coaches, visit www.drgaryandbarb.com or call
1-888-608-COACH.
Married over 30 years, the parents of two adult daughters and four
grandchildren, Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg, your marriage coaches, have
a unique blend of insight and wisdom that touch people of all ages.
Together with Gary's 25,000 hours of counseling experience and
Barbara's gift of encouragement and biblical teaching, they are
equipping thousands of families across the nation through their
interactive daily radio program, conferences, and marriage and family
resources.
by Crosswalk
Is Your Love for Your Spouse Conditional?
Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg
America's Family Coaches
Have you ever found yourself irritated with your spouse – not liking
him or her very much – even though you know you love your spouse? Most
of us have had those days! It's perfectly normal. No two people can
live together for any length of time without once in awhile rubbing
each other the wrong way.
What's important is how you handle these kinds of times. If you let
those feelings of hurt or disappointment take over – your marriage
will suffer. You will create a rift in your relationship. So you have
to make a choice. You have to decide to love. You may not feel loving,
but if you decide to love, the feelings will follow.
You have to learn to demonstrate unconditional love to your spouse.
Unconditional love is necessary for a strong marriage. Are you
practicing unconditional love in your marriage? Here are some
questions to consider:
• Have you accepted your spouse's failures or weaknesses?
• Do you support your spouse, or do you see his or her weaknesses as
projects to fix?
• Are you afraid to be honest because your spouse might not accept you?
There is a huge difference between unconditional love and conditional
love. Conditional love blames a person, expects things in return, and
asks for more. Unconditional love accepts the person, expects nothing
in return and sacrifices.
Conditional love says:
• "I will love you only if…"
• "I don't know if I can handle the tough times. If things get too bad
I'm outta here."
• "I might not be able to forgive you if you tell me…"
Unconditional love says:
• "I will love you even if…"
• "I will stay with you no matter what. I will always love you, even
in the tough times."
• "I know I'll still love you if you tell me…"
Your spouse isn't perfect and you are the one person who sees all his
or her faults and fears. What do you do with what you know about your
spouse?
• Do you tease your spouse with hurtful words?
• Worse, do you tease your spouse with hurtful words in front of others?
• Do you put your spouse down?
• Do you withhold your love until your spouse corrects certain faults?
If you answered "yes" to a majority of these questions, you are loving
conditionally and creating a huge fault line that can at any moment
open up and become a large chasm between you. Conditional love creates
a marriage in which each spouse is more concerned with getting his or
her own way, instead of showing their spouse grace and love.
Your response and connection to your spouse are crucial to the health
of your marriage and family. Your expression of unconditional love and
acceptance is the force that will hold you together in the midst of
the testing times in your marriage. Your standing with each other in
the painful times as well as the good times is one of the primary
elements of a great marriage.
If you love each other conditionally, you'll end up living like two
immature children – each trying to get your own way and resenting the
other person when you don't. You may still be married, but you'll miss
out on the joy of a great marriage. Also, husbands and wives who don't
get unconditional love in their marriage may look for it somewhere
else. And while they're looking for that unconditional love – they're
pulling away from their spouse.
Learning unconditional love is worth it, but it's not easy. Giving
your spouse the security of your unwavering love requires grace,
patience, affirmation of the good things, encouragement, respect and
time. Even when you don't feel like showing love, do it anyway. You
need it; your spouse needs it; your marriage needs it.
Here are some tips on how to keep your dream marriage alive.
• Talk through the issues. Communicate freely with each other and keep
no inappropriate secrets.
• Love each other deeply, without strings. Forgive your spouse when
you are wronged and seek forgiveness when you offend.
• Begin each day by asking, "What can I do for you?" Eagerly seek to
discover and meet each other's needs.
• Hang tough. Pray without ceasing. Instead of caving in to difficult
circumstances, face and conquer them.
• Focus on Christ, and love your spouse. Consciously guard yourselves
against threats and temptations that could pull your marriage apart.
• Pray together daily. Stay close. Work at maintaining emotional,
physical and spiritual closeness.
• Keep the chemistry with your spouse alive. Be committed to keeping
your relationship fresh.
Keeping your marriage strong, vibrant and fresh isn't always easy. But
if you put in the time and effort, you'll discover how truly amazing
your marriage can be.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Portions of this article were adapted from "The Great Marriage Q&A
Book," Copyright 2006 by Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg, all rights
reserved. Published by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.,www.tyndale.com.
To order this resource or to find our more about Dr. Gary and Barb –
Your Marriage Coaches, visit www.drgaryandbarb.com or call
1-888-608-COACH.
Married over 30 years, the parents of two adult daughters and four
grandchildren, Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg, your marriage coaches, have
a unique blend of insight and wisdom that touch people of all ages.
Together with Gary's 25,000 hours of counseling experience and
Barbara's gift of encouragement and biblical teaching, they are
equipping thousands of families across the nation through their
interactive daily radio program, conferences, and marriage and family
resources.
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